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I'm married to a white guy and he listens to mostly "white people" music - about trucks, cars, things that don't make sense, and metal music which is just people screaming. And he once said when we have kids, he will try to influence them to his music (i though i will make them like my music)

Now we have a kid and I'm listening to my play list (music i grew up listening). Mariah Carey, "you will always be my baby" is playing. More in comments

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Lol!! My husband is white and my kids listen to allllllll types of music. We don’t censor for language and my kids are only 2 and 4. We just explain to them that music is a form of self expression and not to sing or repeat the bad words outside of our home. My 4 year old loves Blue Faces by Mike Sherm 🤷🏽‍♀️. If they ask me questions about the lyrics we have a conversation about it and that can be a teachable moment - she’s singing about chasing a man- never do that got it? Now hit that high note baby Lol.

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The song is about a guy leaving her and she is saying he will come back, they are meant to be together.

I can't believe this is the type of music i like. No wonder I was once ghosted for few months and then i got back together with the guy when he contacted me.

Today i decided i will keep my music to myself (it's too late for me, i love this type of music). My kids however can listen to their dad's music, lol.

Have you thought about how our music influenced us, and our kids?

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Yep that’s why I monitor what I listen to now most people don’t even see how the music they listen to keep them under a certain influence or mood plus in black culture we esteem musicians so highly, people probably can separate the art from the artist

I love all kinds of music. I have favorites in each genre. I took my son to his first concert when he was 10. The band was The Who.

Used to fuss at him because he wanted to listen to to Dru Hll. I would say “that’s not rap, put on the Wu”.

now as adult he listens to almost everything sans country.

I think it’s important to expose kids however we can.

And yes, a lot of the songs we were listening to were incredibly problematic. But so are some of the songs of today

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