Married/ Engaged Lady 🐠: Was it tough choosing bridesmaids? I feel like I have a lot of friends that won’t make the cut. & I know it’s going to create quite the drama. Anyone been in this situation?

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Why choosing so many bridesmaids? It complicates wedding planning logistics and represents an extra cost for each bridesmaid and groomsman. Nowadays you should just have a maid of honor, a best man, and the little flower girl and ring bearer. That’s all. Weddings are not sweet 16 parties where you have all of your friends wearing the same dress and then take selfies.

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We didn’t have bridesmaids or groomsmen in ours

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I'm going to have the opposite problem. Came from an area that needed "escaping" and no one from my past made it up the economic ladder/stayed in touch due to lifestyle differences...have one good bridesmaid for mine but all my other friends I don't feel close enough with to ask.

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My friend only had close family members in the wedding party. Made it easier.

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Elope. Problem solved.

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@EY2 that’s kind of where I’m leaning. No justification needed if it’s family only

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And here I am with not enough friends to even have bridesmaids...🤦🏽‍♂️

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I LOVE when my friends keep their weddings small and they don't have room for me in their bridal party. It's so freaking expensive to be a bridesmaid

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No one cares enough for it to be drama

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I had 6

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This gets easier as you get older. You do what you want and say fuck everyone else.

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I’m amazed you have so many friends as a consultant. I am holding on to dear life with my 2 friends.

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Why do people have so many bridesmaids... waste of time & money. Get 2-3max

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You posted a question and those were my two cents, OP. It’s hard to perceive tone and intention here but no animosity or sarcasm on my post. Definitely nothing that hasn’t been seen before... the more people involved, the more complicated things can get 😜

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Going to agree with A1 in that there isn’t the pressure to have a “party” anymore or a traditional vibe. He has 2 people and you have 7? do it. That is ok now. Have a best man? He can be on your side now. But it sounds like you are traditional so how many mates will he have? That will tell you your number. Having done this before... wish I had skipped the wedding party and focused on myself to and groom. Bridesmaids were so much drama and 10 years later I still speak to 2 (had 6 people) just because life has us in different spots now.

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I have 4 bridesmaids for mine (one MOH and 3 friends from college). Everyone I spoke to said keep it small to avoid drama. I will say that one of my friends in my wedding didn’t have me in hers and it was a bit disappointing but I got over it. Do what is best for you without having too many, that will get expensive if you cover some hair and makeup. Just invite everyone else to the shower and bachelorette to make them feel included.

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Nope! I didn’t have a bridal party. No one wants to be in your wedding.

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Make the single friends bridesmaids and give the attached/married friends a +1. Invite all of them to your bachelorette party. Done.

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I think people still have decent size wedding parties. I have also not chosen a bridal party yet. Not sure the reason of your comment @A1.

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