My boyfriend got me nothing for Valentines Day. He told me that he doesn’t need one day because he thinks it should be about everyday. I told him that he doesn’t do those types of things for me any other day. I didn’t expect much. He could have done a cheap $5 bouquet from Walmart or a box of chocolates. We have always celebrated every other year. I bought him something small too.

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I feel like he is taking me for granted. He rarely shows affection anymore and when I tell him about it, he insists that he does. Our relationship has gotten old, stale and boring. He is putting no effort in. I just needed to rant a little to get my feelings out.

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Does he get you things any of the other 365 days of the year? If so you’re being materialistic. It’s a stupid day created by corporate america. I rather get a just because gift than a “I have to” gift

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Valentine’s Day is a scam. If he treats you well every other day, I agree. It’s a Hallmark holiday

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My husband feels the same and I agree!

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Give this a few days to calm down and have a honest conversation that this bothers you and share some of the things you shared here. Your feelings are valid and you’ll get a lot further when he’s not defensive. Best of luck.

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Completely agree with this statement!

DM me. Will treat you right

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Middle fingers up
tell that boy bye 💅

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Keep being single then gur

As a guy who hates the holiday in the marketing scam aspect, that is wrong. At least buy you a surprise latte and say happy Vday

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Then he’ll be shocked when he gets left or cheated on lol

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You got your answer just by listening to how you feel. It doesn't matter what others think, liking Valentines or not, being materialistic or not. What matters is if this man fits your liking and needs. If it's not working for you and you don't see the effort, then move on. You will meet someone to treat you well and meet you half way

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I would agree witht the exception that relationships don't grow on trees. It's not like you can expect to have the world pining for you if you decide to move on. Being single isn't a bad thing, and being in a relationship where you feel honored and respected is something that WE build when we are in it. If there are things you need to look at inside yourself, that's a great place to start, but if you've done the work, communicated the best you possibly know how to do and you STILL feel this way, that's a tough place to be in. Don't be confused or fooled the "grass is greener" thinking or by thinking that you can do better if you don't KNOW that you can. Also, you opened yourself up publicly with this, so the responses you get on here are going to feed your wolf, one way or the other. If you know the parable of two wolves, then you know what I'm talking about. Even if you were to ask the people who are leaving advice if they are happy with their relationahip choices, you have to weigh their experiences with yours to know if there is any validity to them FOR YOU. Have you done all the work to get yourself grounded before you start psycho analyzing HIM? These are all hard things because they have feelings attached. Clear away the wreckage of expecations and loss and somewhere in there you will find your truth of it.

I don’t have a boyfriend relationships are so hard to find now days

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You’ll need to document this with notes, dates, and feelings.

But also document the stuff he does do. Give him credit for those.

And then when spring rolls around. Put him on a PIP plan. And if he doesn’t improve by summer, you need to restructure the relationship.

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It's always best of represent a holiday after it's past it's a lot more affordable for everybody.

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Well my fiancé ended up going to the hospital and he's still there

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valentines day is over rated. I've never celebrated it once. you can either 1. break up with him or 2. tell him that valentines day is a special day for those in relationships, and that if he can't step up and be what you need, then you'll find a new date.

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Are you still together? He clearly doesn't know how to properly treat his gf. I'm sure you can find someone who will lavish your with attention, as you deserve.

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In some ways, I can understand where he coming from if he did romantic gestures on a daily basis

If he used to do it every other year and now he's not suddenly, and not putting much effort into the relationship anymore, it really sounds like he's emotionally detaching. It's probably definitely time to find some ways to reconnect and rekindle the spark that used to be there.

Facts. I’ll say this, a man who’s happy with their sex life , and feels supported and loved - rarely detaches.

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