My boyfriend (whom I live with) quit his job a couple months ago for no good reason, with no back up plan or any savings. I’ve begrudging become the sole provider and I feel trapped and depressed about the whole thing.

He won’t apply for any jobs because he’s “figuring it out” but supporting him is starting to tap into my savings. The lease is in his name and I’ve been wanting to move out for a while and have warned him - but feel guilty. Would it be wrong of me to just up and leave asap???

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When he quit his job, did he consult you before he did it or did he just do it with the expectation that you were going to pay for his lifestyle? either way, be free. Don’t feel guilty.

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Please just up and leave omggg
He really is just taking advantage of you and it's a steaming red flag oof

I'm so sorry. Do not feel bad, JUST save yourself. Quickly. That is not the type of man you want

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Run… fast

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Yes, you need to leave before the end of this month. I'm assuming you've already paid the rent for May - come June, he's on the hook for his own living expenses.

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Glad the lease is not in your name. Makes the exit strategy easier. Good luck.

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Nah girl - 2 months is a long time to be unemployed without a plan. This is giving me Lawrence and Issa vibes (but at least Lawrence helped pay the rent)

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Leave and don’t feel bad. That man is not your husband. You do not owe him anything. Protect your money and savings, and get your own place. He can figure out the rest as he should.

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Man listen!! I would be outta there so fast and I’d do it when he was out. There’s no way I’m supporting a man who is figuring it out, that’s disgusting! How does a man think it’s ok to quit a job without a backup plan? It’s extremely irresponsible. Is that the kind of man you want?

SAVE YOURSELF AND GET THE HELL IUT IF THERE, YESTERDAY!!!!!

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It's time to leave - a relationship is supposed to be a partnership and he didn't have you in mind when he quit. So you don't need to have him in mind when you do things for you.

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Please leave and get trapped in a miserable situation. You can move out without y’all breaking up and if he can’t be mature enough to understand that run.

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Did the two of you discuss this before he quit his job? If he made this decision w/o consulting you, he's selfish and immature. Making you responsible for all the bills with zero savings is a huge burden.

You are his girlfriend, not his mother. How long does he expect you to cover everything? Does he have a plan? How long have you been dating?

Do what's best for you.

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The lease is in his name girl.. 😂 please just leave over the span of a day and keep it pushing

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My ex-boyfriend did that and I married him anyway...thinking he would grow up and he would become the man I knew he could become...7 years later I was divorced...I kept waiting on him to change, live up to his words. Maybe he will with someone else. I wish him the best but I needed more than he could give me. Don't feel guilty about prioritizing yourself...he doesn't feel guilty about prioritizing himself.

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Had a similar situation but I gave him 5 months and divorced him. Best decision ever. I saw a tweet that said,

When I’m getting to know a man I ask myself “would he treat his dream girl like this?” And if the answer is no. I leave him alone. Simple

I really wish I got this advice in my early 20s!

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He up and quit his job sis so you have every right to up and leave 🤷🏽‍♀️

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Have you shared how you're feeling with him? How did he respond? How long have you lived in his apt? How were the bills split before he quit the job? Without the full picture, we can't just set leave. Communication is key. Because He didn't... doesn't make it ok for you to act the same way.

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Move out. Leave.

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Wow!! It’s definitely ok for you to leave and do what’s best for you! It isn’t your responsibility to take care a grown man.

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How’s it going over there, OP?

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It wouldn’t be wrong at all!!

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