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Your coworkers sound immature. You could try saying something like “wow, that is really insensitive. I understand that you are joking around, but a lot of people have been affected in some way by suicide and these types of comments are not funny and can be painful. I hope you can be mindful of the impact your jokes have on others in the future."
I don’t know if it would work, but that is what I would like to say when people behave like this.
I made 9/11 jokes at KPMG in NY and got fired. Report them. I learned my lesson. They will learn theirs
"suicide has impacted my life in more ways that I can explain. I appreciate your humour but your jokes hit too close to home. Could we plesse avoid this particular topic? I would really appreciate it"
I lost a best friend to suicide and right after it was really difficult to talk about, but 3 years later and I now just tell them.. almost in a matter of fact kind of way so they know that it’s something that doesn’t “trigger” you per se but maybe they should be a little less easy going when it comes to that
EY4 - 9/11 was an attack on Americans, it just happens that NY took the brunt of it, and having lived through it that day in Manhattan, yes it does hit home. Maybe you didn’t know anyone that died or was traumatized that day, but as an American and as a human being you should have some compassion and respect for those of us that did.
BT 2 - I can’t even imagine being in that conversation and not losing it, some people are just void of any real feelings.
OP - what EY3 said is perfect and should get the point across. Suicide has effected so many of us unfortunately, and it certainly is nothing to laugh about.
As someone who has struggled with suicidal ideation, please don’t joke about suicide. It can be very triggering to someone who is thinking about suicide or has been affected by it in one way or another It’s a very serious mental health issue that is often misunderstood, and joking about it can be isolating to someone who is suffering. You never know what someone is going through
Tell him you dont find it funny
Not that this makes it better, but I joke about it so I don’t think about going through with it. They may be immature or have their own battles.
I would just get over it. People say things all the time can’t let things like that ruin your day/affect you
I've been in a situation where someone threatened suicide and I knew he didnt mean it, but also didn't want to be the one who didn't see the signs. I told him very frankly that if he mentioned it again I would call for help because I care about his well being. I told him if he wasn't serious to stop and if he said it again I would report it. He did it again. I made the call. My son still has his Dad because I did that. Its not something to joke about and I wouldn't tolerate it from anyone. Given all that's going on today you cannot be too vigilant. Give them a chance to stop and then put a stop to it if you must.
Talk to them one on one and let them know how you've been affected by suicide. If you don't want to give details that it was you that attempted it in the past, give the impression that you know people close to you that has. If they have any sort of decency, they should understand and be more thoughtful of what they say concerning this topic.
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One of our managers was joking in front of our entire team AND client about Kate Spade and the quality of the scarf she hung her self with I give up on people
SM2- I was there too. Yes, that’s my point - it was an attack on America! PA and DC were hit too but many (not all) New Yorkers feel that it was just about them. It is just indicative of how many New Yorkers are very self-obsessed.
My other point is that I think when we commemorate it each year (the 17th anniversary Memorial is being planned in full swing - really, 17??), when we don’t ever seem to get past it, well, then the terrorists have indeed won. I don’t want that to happen.
So let’s never forget the victims but let us also focus on today and look forward, not back. God bless the USA.
I think there is a possibility your coworker might be struggling with suicidal thoughts. Based on my experience, suicide doesn’t come to mind often otherwise. Consider that in your approach.
EY7 - yes, joking about suicide and standing up to those who joke about suicide are the same. Thanks for clearing that up and making the world a better place.
Nothing like a good 9/11 joke on a Friday night! Let's hear it!
BT1, how long after 9/11? New Yorkers seem to think that the whole world revolves around them, so hokes about 9/11 seem to be verboten
Thanks everyone. This has helped. I feel like I should say something. However,I am pretty emotional about this topic, and I don't know if I could hold it together enough to get my point across.
Just tell them that it’s a topic left out of jokes, given the risk of affecting someone is definitely outweighed by any (/none) ‘humor value’