My future MIL got me a bracelet that she expects me to wear on my wedding day. I had no intention to wear a bracelet that day and what she got me absolutely doesn't match. I'm not sure how to handle. She made a big deal about it and we don't have the best relationship as she doesn't like me.

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Lol, or there is the OMG I forgot it as a preemptive strike when you see her, or
if she asks, the what! I put it on! It must have fallen off....or I didn’t want it to snag on my dress. Or, ..what a thoughful gesture, but I already told grandma I was wearing no jewelry when she offered a rather hideous family heirloom. Or,the photographer asked me to take it off, and I guess I forgot to put it back on... my personal fav...what bracelet?

Need any more ideas for plausable deniability, just ask.

I also like the idea gaslighting technique of wearing one you like ( or exchanging what she gave you for one you like) and saying ...this is the one you gave me..... although probably not best practice lol

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Id pick the “blame grandma” if it’s applicable 😂

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Could you wear it to the rehearsal dinner?

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That's what I was thinking. Wouldn't match my outfit but I suppose that's better than nothing

have your fiancé deal with it. have them tell their mom that you really appreciate the gesture but that you already had your jewelry planned for the day and wanted to be more minimal

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Wrap it around the bouquet ?

Or tell her no 🤷‍♀️

It's not something that's my style and I think she'd be incredibly offended if I were to do that

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