Wanted to share this somewhere.
My father has been very aggressive and keeps on creating quarrel like situations at home day in and day out.
I care for him a lot. However, i have tried both calm and aggressive tones during quarrels, but it also didn't help.
Now it's becoming unbearable to keep on getting involved with his quarrels over little things... considering this scenario I am also not proceeding with matrimonial process as not sure how the girl will handle this
28M here
Any suggestions?

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Hi everyone

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Also which companies are having come back programs for new moms?

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Wondering if I should look into anxiety meds (or if I’m just a baby and need to get used to this life).

Have you tried any? Did it help? Affect your productivity? Which ones? tya!

Are there good indexes and websites that you’ve used to gauge the COL of different cities and standardize salaries?

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Can we combine our Corporate Amex points with Amex Everyday MR points?

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Inflation check @9% 🫡

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Have you got any mail for a laptop or any onboarding details?

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Hello fishes,

I’m planning to fly to the US for my MS - MIS this Fall and I’m currently in a management consulting role with Deloitte USI.

Wanted to check if I can get some help for summer internships for Tech/PM/Consulting roles in the states in this forum!
TIA!

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