Wanted to share this somewhere.
My father has been very aggressive and keeps on creating quarrel like situations at home day in and day out.
I care for him a lot. However, i have tried both calm and aggressive tones during quarrels, but it also didn't help.
Now it's becoming unbearable to keep on getting involved with his quarrels over little things... considering this scenario I am also not proceeding with matrimonial process as not sure how the girl will handle this
28M here
Any suggestions?

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Don’t live at home post marriage and get out of there asap.

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I have the similar situation where both of my parents have so many issues within each other and they fight all the time. I have realized you can’t change anyone at this stage. Move out of the toxic environment and live your life. Help them financially. Emotional help is not what they need and it’s a pattern they want to live forever

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He is very obese and not fit physically, I assume that to be one of the driving factors for undesired aggression..

I don’t think this has to do anything with that! May be you should encourage him to go to therapy. That’s the only way I can see.

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Tried to motivate a lot, but no luck...

Anger is an unresolved emotion that isn’t being communicated. Perhaps ask him why he’s so angry.. without reacting to his anger. Good luck!

This situation is mentally very draining... I have missed on opportunities just to stay with parents and take care of them.

Now, after all of it, I don't think the quarrels are coming to an end soon.

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he is just a short tempered man like several others in this world. thats ok ..just keep him occupied with things he like... do not overthink

Do you stay with your father? Who else is there in the family ?

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