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I’ll keep it simple, try and find a way to not be bothered by it. What other people do with their time and energy should not affect you at all. You’re allowing it to for some reason and you need to find a way to move past it. Their bond seems strong and that’s a good thing.
Consider buying a new place that has an office for her or ask her to talk in the bedroom while your working. Has to be a work around.
I just came from a 5hr call with my sister and read this.. Also waiting for my other sister to wake up in her time zone to speak with her for a couple more hours. I multitask while on the calls and use a headphone. Fortunately my partner works upstairs and hardly hears me. Initially he would be upset that I would be engaged in a call when he came downstairs to have coffee with me, but now we have scheduled coffee times where I take a break and focus on him. I made it clear to him that I would never compromise my relationship with my sisters. Especially after previously being in an abusive relationship that started with me being isolated from my friends and family. I guess we are on the same page now and he is sucking it up.
Would you be on the phone 5 hours if you were in the office?
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I wish my family cared enough about me to even want to talk to me at all.
That's so weird
What the OP or the sister?
2 hours a day is not too bad. Maybe try asking her talk when you are not busy working. Or try to use headphones when she is talking.
Is she louder when she is on the phone with her sister vs work calls? Is the sister on speaker phone? If so, then get her wireless headphones for her phone.
Also reading the comments - it sounds like she's using alllll of her time between meetings to be on the phone with her sister. So it's not 2 hours in a row, it's 15 minutes here, 30 minutes there, etc.
As for how to communicate this- I would say asking her to have a schedule time to talk to her sister after work vs all the convos between meetings is a good start. And if it's the volume that bothers you, ask her to keep it down, or maybe she can go into a different room and close the door to talk to her sister.
Only two hours - you are a lucky man! Do you have a patio outside you can eat on? If you dress right it’s not too bad even in November.
Hey OP, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to make your feelings known, as things like that can build resentment over time.
One suggestion I may have is if you go to express your thoughts, to keep it focused on yourself (framing how the situation makes you feel) as opposed to “attacking”. For example: “when you do xyz”, “it makes me feel abc”
Then there’s less grounds for disagreement as you’ve just stated that certain behaviors make you feel a certain way.
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I’d gently ask her if she could wear earbuds when she Facetimes because it distracts you while you’re working.
Why dies it drive you crazy that she face times her sister daily? Does it really drive you crazy or is an insecure/jealous situation?
Would it still bother you if you weren’t working, such as a weekend? Some people just love to talk, if it’s a distraction from your work then it’s reasonable to bring up
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When does she get her work done? That sounds excessive and really annoying (F here). Maybe you could ask her to leave the house when she is talking because it is so distracting to you. She might not realize how much it is bothering you.
It’s her sister. Your wife is her own person. If you want to stay married learn to live with it 😀 And while you’re at it, find more people in your life beyond your wife.
This would annoy the s*** out of me.
I might start working in a cafe or rent a shared workspace. Or ask her to go to another room and close the door- at least
Just tell her. Be honest.
Try and bond more with her to keep her talking to her sister less minimal. I have a sister too, her husband calls me the side chick because I call too much. So he always bumbs into the conversation to shorten our conversation. Anytime I know he is around I limit my call because I no if I am long on the phone with my sister he will come into the conversation
Seems like you have no friends and you get jealous… read some self help books…
Divorce... just kidding. I can understand the frustration, but communication is key to a relationship. I've been with my wife for 7 years and we both understand that some of the things we do can annoy each other. If you don't say anything she will never know this bothers you and building up your stress level is not healthy for you.
Your post says they FaceTime on average 2 hours a day but comments say they talk all day. So which is it?
Move closer. 🙃🤷🏻♂️
Buy her a set of Air Pods so at least you only have to hear one side in the convo.
Tell her you have meetings and if she can take the conversation to a different area of your home.