Outside of your career and being a parent, how would you describe your identity?

I know this isn’t a marriage therapy bowl, but my husband has a really terrible tendency of saying things like “you’re being really mean” and completely shutting down during a disagreement when i objectively am not being mean, just truthful or vocal about how i feel about something. It’s a really convenient argument for him because it enables him to either be the victim and me the villian, or forces me to concede my stance and not reach a true resolution. Any tips on dealing with the irrational?

This is an emotional dump rn. It may be lack of social interaction but I'm really frustrated lately. I feel like I lost last 2.5 years of my life with ongoing lockdowns and job instability in the first half of the pandemic. I was 28 turing 31. I get good dates but -ve self talk
Inflation is high & coming from a low income family where you're supposed to help your parents is driving me nuts. Although I make a good salary, after rent, car insurance, there isn't much left (unfav currency exchange)

Hi Fishes,

Need some suggestions from everyone. I have 4.5 years experience and I was working as contractor in ZS and my CTC in parent company was 7 Lakhs.

ZS were willing to offer me FTE as ZS but at a compensation of meagre 8.5 Lakhs. I tried negotiating but they sticked with this.

How come ZS do that? Why can't they pay more as they generally pay 15+ for 4.5 years experience.

Does anyone have experience or know of someone who went on a FWA (part-time) but didn't have kids? I'm unmarried and no kids but considering a move to 30 or so hrs/week for my sanity.

I have been married for 3 years. We have been trying to have a baby and found out my husband is shooting blanks and requires surgery to possibly resolve that. Recovery is 4 weeks and he refused. He is also not open to adopting or fostering or using someone else’s sperm. What do I do now?

Has anyone started a new job while expecting a child? I'm thinking about it but could use some input from people with experience.

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

I've been avoiding breaking up with someone (I've been dating off and on for a year) for the past few weeks because I can't decide the best way to do it. We're not compatible long-term. He's not seeing anyone else and I've told him I'm seeing other people but he's starting to have relationship expectations for me since we reconnected a few months ago. Any tips for having the conversation? I'd prefer to do it via text but I know people say it's not appropriate and it should be over the phone.

I dint feel happy when my bf proposed me for marriage.. i am not able to understand why..he is very nice guy, we have been dating for almost 4 years but honestly, in these 4 years, i never had that butterflies feelings with him never ever. Its just that we are comfortable with each other as a person thats it and we started dating.
Whats wrong with me..i am also not sure if i want marry him..

Do you consider your in-laws family? For example, if your spouse’s sibling has children, do you consider those kids as your family or your spouse’s family?

Is anyone else hoping for an insane blizzard to hit mid-next week so they have an excuse not to drive downstate to spend Thanksgiving with their extended family? Some of my family's FB posts since last week's elections tell me it's going to be a long holiday weekend.

Anyone know any good divorce lawyers in NYC?
Thanks in advance 🙇🏾‍♀️

Single 🐠 from where do you get your emotional support? There is a constant void I feel and not family and friends support isn’t working out / not an option.

Hi Guys,

I have an OL from LTI with a CTC-20 Lpa..As my mother had brain surgery, i need to be with her. i have asked HR to provide WFH. Does LTI support in these kinds of cases?? I have also asked HR to set up a call with the Project Manager.

Comments pls ..

Reviewed a student book as constructive as possible.What I liked first about it then pointed out what needs work. Kid replied by criticizing my feedback in a rude condescending manner. What do i say?

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Has anyone experienced your spouse/ex turning your kids against you? My toddler son is aggressive towards me and uses words not normal for toddler vocabulary. MIL also adding fuel to the fire.

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

I am 31 and trying to conceive since 2 months. My mom had early menopause when she was 39 or 40. I am bit worried and my family doctor said she can transfer me to fertility specialist as I have such Family history.

I want to try conceiving naturally for 6 months before I meet a fertility specialist. Should I be really worried about my mom’s condition? Should I meet fertility specialist right away?

Hello Fishes,

I have a 9 years of experience in Devops and currently has 42LPA CTC. I am planing to switch now, Can I expect 30% more on this for the mid sized companies ? How is market now?

Does EY’s vision plan not cover eye exams?

Can anyone me a career advice, if you were to start your career again ,what would you have done?
1)Learn trending topics like data science,cloud etc...
2)Go for higher studies(m.tech/mba,...)
3)Leetcode more and tried better dev roles
4)try jobs in core fields(vlsi,...)
5)Any different path...
Would love to hear your opinion. :)

I am a manager working in forensic and dispute advisory services with pwc. I am looking for similar profile in niche firms like anm , fti consulting, control risk. Can anyone refer me for a suitable profile.@

Any company hiring for Software engineer role with 1+ yoe experience, Please let me know, I'm searching for a job.
Thanks in advance!!

(Reserve) Unit Transfer Help

ETS in 6 months. Really want to re-enlist for 4 -6 years. Currently in a MOB, and got promoted out of the unit last year June to another unit, did 1-year E5 work during the mob. Finishing up MOB in Nov and got accepted into a cyber unit in which I can progress my career, and want to reenlist for 6 years.


However, the unit I got promoted to insist me to go to them and I'm ETS in 6 months.

I reached out to rentenion guy, he’s very Lazy

What should I do?

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How do you cope with seeing your peers (either in this industry or outside) getting ahead of you (being promoted earlier) in their careers?

Hi, how is the work life balance and job security in Infosys?
Which location is the best for the AWS role?

Hi everyone. I am trying to change my current company. I am currently working with Stonex and have experience in financial domain for 11 years. My profile is in Surveillance Compliancen, Kyc Aml, QA Six Sigma, Trade Surveillance and ecommunication Surveillance. It would be great if i would have got one referral.

Thanks.

3 months post breakup… I seemed to be healing well and all the sudden this week I took a huge step back and feel heartbroken all over again. For context I was in a 4 year relationship including 1 year engaged and had to call my wedding off due to his infidelity. How can I shake this? 😔

Walmart Bengaluru: 22.5 fix, 20% variable and 4 lakh stocks

Globant pune: 25 fix

What should I go for for Data engineer profile???

Any recommendations?

What is the longest deposition you’ve sat through? …..I’m currently in one thats been going for 10 hours. 🙃

Men - do you try to get out of an argument/fight by pretending like nothing happened? Why so?

Hidden gem restaurants in or around Philly? Planning a special bday dinner.

I don’t get the hype about the new Spider-Man movie. Yes, it’s a good one, but why do people think it’s the best one yet? Am I missing something?

I am looking for a firm to help us with our product and pricing strategy. Who would you recommend?

Could I work for slalom if there is no slalom office in my city? I am not considering to move

There is a role I am interested at my client company. I think my counterpart’s boss would be the best person to refer me to it. He knows I am good. Is it ok to ask my client to refer me?contd

How does your firm measure utilization? I work for a small boutique that defines it as utilization = number of billable hours/2,080 and full bonus payout occurs at 80% plus.

Is there any advice for networking into projects when you don’t know many people at the firm yet? I always to help on BD work when I’m on the bench, but it never turns into any billable work. Every time I have talked to a partner/senior manager I was told I don’t have the skill set they’re looking for, but I don’t know how to build up from there. Feeing very lost but I want to improve my approach.

How many points yo ask delta for if you were delayed at the airport for 10 hours ?

When your team wants to carpool from the airport, work together ALL DAY, eat lunch together, carpool back to the same hotel....to do it all again the next 🙄 NO THANK YOU. #toomuchtogetherness 😂😩🤔

SF 🐠 - would you rather live in Sunset, mid peninsula or Oakland?

Best consulting companies in the social sector?

Which Canadian B school MBB or other top consulting firms regularly recruit from?

Is crossover recruiting a scam? / wtf is it?

nothing like prolonged unsuccessful job searching to make you question all your professional experience and value 🥲

May be this is off the topic..
One of my friend who is a doctor & is an international med graduate. He passed his United States Medical Licensing Exams with above average scores. He has applied fr the match last yr & was nt able to match. Match process costs around USD10k; this year he is applying again after borrowing funds frm different sources bt he is under tremendous pressure to get match. I feel his pain as he has studied for 10+ yrs and is struggling to match nw. I m nt sure hw I can help

Finished work before 10 PM today. Early day!

I just caught my senior managers behaving unethically and am unsure whether to say something for fear of retaliation.

What essential courses or books do you recommend for coming up to speed on Product Management?

Is your network really your net worth? Having difficulty getting responses from project managers. I would love to get staffed on a project. Is anyone willing to chat with me?

Anyone out of Chicago stick to flying Delta? I'm over United and American...

Notice there are so many people with debate experience in consulting. Kinda impressed. Any highly recommended books related to debate or communication in general?