Reflecting on the year. What is one thing in your current life that your 10-year old self will a) be happy about, and b) be sad about? Similarly, what about your future 50-year old self?

Hi fishes,
Want some feedback for Employees Assistant Program (EAP) by Capgemini which provides facilities to connect with Therapist.
Actually I am going through some tough times(going through a divorce), want to connect to EAP to discuss my mental health issues.
I had connected once and they say that the conversations are strictly confidential.
Just wanted to know do they really keeps stuff confidential or can they inform my Manager regarding the personal conversations.

I think it’s over with my SO of 3 years. He tells me he loves me and wants to work things through but has lied to me several times in the past - some which were the same mistake three times. He knows he needs professional help (he’s also on antidepressants and has PTSD) but I don’t know how I can trust him again. Feeling completely broken - cannot believe the situation we’re in. I’m so sad my heart is breaking and I don’t know what to do

Whoever said bumble bbfs was great couldn’t have been more right. It’s weird I’ve l been confident in how I look in the last few years but my personality and likability was put into question but instantly I seem to be receiving the friendship attention I like, 50+ likes by 4am on the first day, signed up at 2am. It’s kind of nice to make brand new friends without having a connection or a class together. Old friends and friends or friends sometimes benchmark you and don’t view the new you

Last night I slept over my boyfriend’s apt. We are sexually active together but this time he woke up at 4/5am and started fingering me and eating me out. I was somewhat awake but I don’t know how to feel about this. Thoughts?

Anybody here a single mother by choice? Would love to chat.

After I joined the force I noticed some people I considered friends have slowly distanced themselves from me. Anyone else go through something similar?

Lady 🐠’s - recommendation for workouts? My SO is starting to exercise, but doesn’t want to do barbell workouts because she thinks she will get bulky. Established or custom programs are appreciated

I’m in the middle of moving by myself. I’m job hunting, because I lost my last one. My relationship has basically imploded. I sleep a lot on a fucked up schedule because I’m depressed but I can’t afford help, and I only get it when insomnia gives me a break. I’m so done and over all of this. I have so many heavy regrets. Idk how to carry all of this.

Any moms on here that absolutely love their company and feel 100% supported?

My partner of 5 years ended our relationship last night. I’m shattered and feel absolutely sick, and I know the healing isn’t going to be easy. We were on the verge of an engagement and I was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

I don’t know how to approach work during this time. I think I can get by, but I’m definitely not 100%. Should I talk to my boss about it? My team is close-knit and comfortable around each other, but I don’t know if it’s “appropriate.” What would you do?

Potential unintended consequences of my parenting decisions is the most stressful thing ever.

The “right” approach can feel so clear one moment, then feel like a huge mistake the next.

I dint feel happy when my bf proposed me for marriage.. i am not able to understand why..he is very nice guy, we have been dating for almost 4 years but honestly, in these 4 years, i never had that butterflies feelings with him never ever. Its just that we are comfortable with each other as a person thats it and we started dating.
Whats wrong with me..i am also not sure if i want marry him..

How would you feel going on vacation with friends who want to bring their kid along too?

Are there some in this group that are here to chat as well? I’m a married M, but wouldn’t mind a friend that’s here to chat

Anyone else struggling with hormones / mood swings? I am almost 16 weeks and been having a real tough time lately, feeling really down and stressed about things. Sadly, causing tension between me and my partner as well as he cannot relate and seems preoccupied with business as usual. Trying to get out the funk and just telling myself it’s all the hormones.

Okay - any fellow consultants that turned around their lives? Like late bloomers, change in outlook(becoming optimistic), or just finding more helpful and happy people in life? Some upbeat stories plz

Anyone have situational depression? Can’t stop beating myself up over a decision a year ago. Basically missed out on a massive amount of money. I know this seems trite and i never even cared thatt much about money before this year.

So many other good things happened to me this year - got married, got a puppy, moved etc, and yet the one thing i keep returning to is this decision as though i ruined my life. Ironically the only thing ruining my life is my outlook and yet i just can’t stop.

What do you do when you feel the goalpost has been/is being moved re: billable requirements? Like there's a spoken vs unspoken? I chose this job based on billables vs salary and what I'm being told I'm expected to do now is 20-30% (at least) > than what was initially agreed upon. Given my other life responsibilities, this is creating a huge strain & I feel like this is slowly getting harder & harder on my spouse & kids. I'm grateful to have lots of good work but not sure how to course correct.

Looking for a husband 🤣

How do I deal with a parent who has become bitter and shrewd as they age? It’s exhausting and disheartening to be around because they used to be positive and happy. I’d like to help them be positive again but also want to give them space to feel how they feel. I just want them old version of my parent back 😞

Curious what testing others are using for K. We are currently using DIBELS. Looking for a good Math screening.

What do you do if you’re on a month to month lease and an apartment you’ve applied for asks if you can move in earlier. If I am paying double rent for half a month it raises my net monthly rent by about $150...

anyone else hype about the new macbooks 👀

already pre-ordered

with apple silicon, adobe better get indesign running faster than i’ve ever seen it.

Hi, I have a HR discussion with EXL this week for the post of manager.

What should be the fixed pay I should be asking for?

With the Whitehouse about to push new Coronavirus messaging: ‘Learn to live with it’, push people to accept 50-100k new cases per day and encourage numbness to death where are our Dems?! Why aren’t there daily house subpoenas and hearings?!

Hi Fishes,

I have two offers from

OPTUM- 16 LPA(FIXED)
Siemens- 16 LPA(FIXED)

I am currently having 3.5 yrs of industry experience as Java Full Stack Developer.

Out of these two which company will be a better fit in terms of career growth, WLF and overall work culture.

Can someone please guide me here?

Any books/self help materials for someone who is constantly worrying (and waste a lot of unnecessary time)? E.g. No matter if i pass or fail an interview, there is always something to worry about. The worrying/anxiety multiplies when I proceeded further in the interview stages. Now that I signed the offer and is pending background checks, my anxiety is off the roof as it itches closer to my starting date.

B4 manager (tech consulting) with 10 years of exp. What’s a realistic compensation range for an industry exit? Targeting tech companies (ideally FAANG). Thank you!

Hey friends! Anyone here work remotely 100%?

Hey Oracle fishes, do oracle accepts counter offer...

For Big4 FDD, 2 behavior interviews and 1 case study interview. Is case study interview weighted a lot more than those 2 behavior interviews? or they are all like the same. Anyone who went though th process?

Curious to hear how Account Exec comp is being broken down for those in Canada that do Solution Sales. After many years in recruitment I’m taking on solutions. Loving it! Just don’t know what industry comp looks like and would love to hear how others in Canada are remunerated.

Restructuring/Bankruptcy associates, how slow have you been this year so far? Seems like industry wide it’s been a very quiet year.

This might be philosophical but wanted to understand if we should get satisfied and be happy with what we have or keep striving for more?

Reason I am asking this is - I earn close to 1.5 lakhs every month and if someone had told me this during my college days I would have taken it eyes closed thinking this is more than enough. But today, I am not able to be satisfied and I don't want this to become an affliction so thought to share with others here and get to know the general sentiments.

A recruiter from Deloitte reached out to me today. I have a interview next week. I thought Deloitte has a hiring freeze? Very excited to interview for this position.

To those starting the year on the beach: office or home office ...or actual beach?

Any good business/consulting books on amazon kindle that y’all have read that has helped you in your job?

Shall I disclose reason for leaving a firm during my initial call with a recruiter from said firm, if I was laid off? Are they privy to that information. Ironically being recruited by that same firm

Looks like I'll be stranded in Boston due to the crummy weather. Any thoughts on what to do while I'm here??

Got hired as a digital strategy consultant. I have over 10 years of industry experience but I’m new to consulting. What courses, workshops or books would you recommend to build a solid toolkit?

Need a good recommendation for a home office chair. I work from home a lot and need a new chair. My new one isn’t cutting it for me- it’s not comfy and I have lower back pain.

I don’t get why people get so mad when planes are delayed due to weather. It’s not like the gate agent will clear up the skies

Any book recommendations?

Didn’t eat lunch or dinner. Would you judge me if I ordered two different snack boxes on my flight?

Heard frm a friend at pwc that in consulting they have per diems. Is it for all practitioners and practice? Seems tight on budget.

CAIA vs CFA?

What are the key things one should save when leaving Accenture? Things like key contacts, links to alumni sites, any well being points?

Anyone has a sephora promo code to share? 🐠🐠

What is your home office set up like? Interested in buying a monitor (34 inches?) and wondering if it is the right choice.

What’s the strangest wrong number / wrong email message you’ve received? Just got an email for a high school senior who passed a ballet audition and was invited to participate in a summer program...

What was the salary you made when you felt like you were in a comfortable spot.. bills paid, savings, and good amount of spending money

A senior person in my org who I don't know, mailed me with "Hi <my last name>" asking for some help. I replied back with "Hi <requester's last name>, how can I help?
Never heard back from this person.