Reminder to everyone: use your 2021 vacation time. Don’t let it pass you by just because you’re not traveling. Take a long weekend once a month to nap and eat chips in sweat pants all day. We all need to do our part to normalize self care, and sitting at home doing “nothing” is just as worthy of a vacation day as pina coladas on the beach.

Big birthday coming up in a few months and wanting to do things I have never done before (tattoos, surgery, etc.) What have you done as a result of a mid life crisis?

I received a verbal offer for a VP position at CCB line of business at JPMC in NYC two weeks ago. The recruiter asked for salary expectations but there was no number set. It’s been two weeks since and complete radio silence. I sent an email to a hiring manager a week ago but received no reply. It’s August so people could be on vacation but this is really strange. Has anyone had similar experience?

Has anyone’s medical provider prescribed femera? I have well documented PCOS and my GYN said I don’t need to wait 12 months for intervention because I have 16 years of documented menstrual irregularities. I just got off my birth control in December. We want TTC starting in my next cycle. Just wanted to hear peoples experience with femera. My whole life I’ve been told it will be a struggle

Looking for advice about workplace accommodations for mental health - calling all people with mental health issues and managers who have dealt w that. More info in comments

Does anyone use blue light glasses? Do they help? I get headaches almost every day and I’m sure it’s because I’m glued to the screen all day. Wondering how to alleviate them without popping 4 ibuprofens a day.

IFV recommendations in Boston anyone? A Reproductive Endocrinologist the most - but reccs on any and all members of a health team/other tips welcome. Wide and I are about to begin this journey =/

Anyone else have days where it seems like your meds just don’t work? What do you do to offset those? This week has been a struggle.

I just don't see a scenario where I don't have a hump by the time I'm 50 with how much I stare down at my phone. My shoulders/neck are constantly sore since I've downloaded the tiktok app

I was supportive of Lori when this virus first started but her actions since have dwindled my support of her. I don’t expect her to make every decision correct nor do we have to agree with all of them. I believe she should be correct around 75 percent of the time but I believe she is in the 50 percent range. I know everything doesn’t fall on her shoulder but things haven’t been great as of late. Hopefully they figure out something soon.

Anyone buy les mills bodypump for at home? I started going to classes pre-COVID and really loved it. Curious about the at home experience. OR any experience with Beachbody Lift4 program?

IF you use EPIC EMR, do you like it? How does it compare to prior ones that you have used?

Retrieval done, 26 eggs later! :) Good luck to all of you with retrievals coming up or are somewhere in the process! Fingers crossed for strong embryos!

Can provide more details if needed, but if an employee is constantly coughing at work (small retail establishment), is it okay to ask them for a doctor's note stating they aren't contagious? They're claiming it's due to allergies, but I've gotten several confidential concerns from employees and customers alike due to the current enviornment.

Do you think that we're looking at another lockdown soon?

Hi. My baby seems to have an infection in her paw. Any home remedies until i get her to the vet tomorrow? She has been experiencing joint issues so I put grip socks on her to help ease while walking. I’ve been sick this week and haven’t changed her socks daily like i normally do😔😔😭😭 and i notice it’s super swollen and red. Help help i feel so bad

Tricare Q:

Vets using Tricare with a family. I’m out and can use Tricare with the VA, but my wife and I each use our company offerings for our family; which obviously come at cost. Is it worth it to switch to Tricare? Has anyone done this and can share details? Positives/negatives?

Is fruit really bad for you? I’m having a hard time with the concept of no fruit while on Keto. If I introduced fruit back into my diet, does that defeat the purpose of Keto?

Has anybody given nab codility test.please let me know

Anyone have tmj disorder? How do you cope at work with it?

What time frame is used to measure our utilization metric? I'm pretty sure it's not our fiscal year, but sometime around April '16 - March '17?

It's March, and I have done a lot of seminars in Jan and Feb. I've gotten a few clients but would like to increase AUM drastically! Any books, sites or advice on what I can do for marketing?

Hello Fishes,

Is there any opening for SAP HANA Modeling and Development for a 3+ years experienced professional?

Hello Fishes

Do you have any idea about xpheno.
I got selected over there for client project.

To ZSers who got onsite: How to get onsite opportunities as BTSA?

Does anyone use peptides as part of their skincare routine? Yay or nay?

My psychiatrist recommended for me to try Ritalin. I’ve been on Dexedrine for a few months, and I’m not really having negative side effects.

Is she a pill mill, or is it worth fixing something that’s not broken?

Fund Formation? Anyone in fund formation looking? Associates, Counsel, Partners. I have great opportunities for all of them. Some great firms looking!

When will dxc sent onboarding link for virtual joiners?

Hi ,
I have an experience of 1.8yrs as a business analyst in wipro with 4lpa ,how much can I expect with an another company.

I want to hear your horror stories as a service provider. I'll start. At a previous company... we were contractually obligated to have deployed (and provided 24x7 monitoring of) an AT&T Cybersecurity product suite for a managed network client, but we never deployed the solution. They paid us for the 24x7 monitoring and the software for MONTHS. When they realized it, we owed them almost $27k.

Hello, I have a final panel interview coming up for a Strategic Product Consultant role at Procore (Construction SaaS). It’ll be 3 separate interviews, 30 minute each with a Team Lead, a Senior Consultant, and a Customer Success Manager.

I’ve already completed 2 interviews; 1 screening interview with a recruiter and 1 with a hiring manager.

I’m currently a PM for a General Contractor looking to pivot into tech.

Looking for advice to prepare for these final rounds of interview. Thanks!

How big is to big for an initial investment property. Theres a 20 SFH portfolio for sale by me for about a mil. Is this to big to start with initially? I'm less worried about the Financials (feel comfortable on that end) and more worried about the managerial aspect.

Infosys Pune and Genpact Kolkata-which is better?

Hi Folks,

I want to move into Deloitte Newzealand, applied a job opportunity through career portal, currently associated with Deloitte India.

Is internal transfer possible?

Guilt and shame about working in a legal position for years where, instead of using my law degree (was supposed to do legal work per the job posting), I served as a personal assistant to my boss/did nothing for maybe half the time. I feel like I was paid for work I didn't do. I've since left that job but the guilt and shame remains. I feel that I lack the character of a lawyer and that I am unworthy of the profession. I don't know how to make up for the lost years or how to forgive myself.

Has anyone had good experiences taking ashwagandha for daily stress?

I’ve had a really tense, emotionally exhausting week. Things wrapped up yesterday and now my body feels so strung out and exhausted. Any tips for coming down from being so strung out without relying on toxic habits and just shutting down/procrastinating? (My brain is saying “go for a run” and my body is getting stuck picking at my eyebrows for two hours) I feel like my central nervous system is on a roller coaster.

If you’re reading this, go drink some water!

Anyone participating in dry January or done similar things in the past? Did you notice an effect on mental health or other benefits?

People with depression in big law- how do you manage? How do you meet your hours? The lack of support/training and being remote has been very hard on me.

SEEKING OPINIONS & FEEDBACK: I love the honest & practical discussions here, where people can freely identify things that are going on & seek guidance.

Wondering whether anybody’d be interested in some kind of more purposeful community- i.e., gathering w/fellow lawyers to pursue some specific mental health & well-being goals? We’d provide some counseling/coaching type content, in bite sized chunks, but have regular discussions to connect & encourage one another on applying the content IRL.

What did y’all actually want to be when you grew up?

Mental health issues in our profession are finally being recognized. While mental health issues are not unique to lawyers, the profession and it's client service mantra present unique challenges.

Choose to be happy today

Is it me or does depression in big law mostly affect single overworked women around age 30?

Gripe- there is no room for a sick day in this profession. Big closing coming up. Have a bad cold. Have billed 40+ hours in the last 3 days.

Why do lawyers celebrate a culture of poor health?

Does anyone else feel like having kids is the only acceptable reason to not be in the office 24/7? If I choose not to have children, do I not have any valid reason to have a life outside work?

Anyone here willing to share their firsthand experience of searching for and selecting a therapist? My wife was kind enough to vet a few through our church and her friends, but wondering if I might find a better fit with a therapist who specializes in working with lawyers or small business owners.

Is anyone else experiencing a new wave of covid anxiety due to the stress of figuring out the holidays? Got in an argument with a family member about safety guidelines and testing needing to happen and I’ve been feeling paralyzed by anxiety all day.

When covid first hit, I was delighted to be working from home. My hours even improved. Now, because of some triggering events, I’m dealing with horrible panic attacks on the daily. I’m dissociating and can’t focus long enough to get work done. I JUST hit a year at this firm and am going on a one month stress leave. Worried I might not kick this mental state in that time. Any advice as to what I can do while on leave so I can come back focused and ready to work?

Wish apps like BetterHelp were free. I can’t afford healthcare or therapy (I’m unemployed, and yes, I’ve tried seeking pro bono therapy options — no place anywhere nearby offers it.) I really need a therapist I can talk to on at least a weekly basis to just unpack so much that’s bogging me down to the point of being unable to function some days, but it’s just so cost prohibitive! What sucks is everyone assumes this career hands you median wages on a platter but I’m worse off than I’ve ever been.

I have chronic health issues and I’m severely depressed. I can’t even get myself to work anymore. If I don’t quit, I’m in serious danger of being fired. I feel that I need to just quit and take time off to get better but feel that it will be a stain on my career. I’m a pretty junior lawyer. Any advice. I just can’t do any work at all and I’m my anxiety and depression is spiraling out of control. I see a therapist I try to cope and it’s not working.

I’ve been working to an unhealthy degree lately. And I’ve been making the excuse that I have a lot of work right now, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m addicted to it. Part of it is anxiety and perfectionism. But my behavior is now actively harmful to myself and starting to harm my marriage.

How do I stop? I’m not talking work-life balance. I mean, how do I say, “I don’t care that the client wants this tomorrow and I’m not close to done, I’m going to sleep tonight”?