SO and I are taking a break after a heated argument. I don’t know if I should reach out, how to know when I should, or if I should wait for them to. Why am I asking you guys? I’m at a loss.

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If you want them back reach out. If you want it to end don’t reach out.

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Maybe send a message that doesn’t try to start a conversation and put pressure on them. Something like “hey was just thinking about you. Hope you’re well, and looking forward to talking whenever you’re ready” or something like that.

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Better reach out before he reaches in something else

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Long term, permanent missed opportunity regrets are way worse than short term first mover (caved in) regrets. Always. Take the high road. Not much to lose, if it was just one terrible argument and you still want some future with this person and have had a good past with them.

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I agree with TA1, if you miss them reach out, I’d you don’t miss them, don’t reach out.

Sometimes it’s easier to solicit advice from random anonymous people on the internet than people you know. It’s less invasive and you get diverse opinions. Personally, I don’t share all my relationship drama with family and friends so asking here can be easier some of the time

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Did you agree which type of break it was? If not, I guarantee your boy is out bussin his nuts

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Balls deep

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Send them the Friends episode. The one where they were on a break

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Lol if I sent him this it would be over for sure

How long have you been together? How have things been in recent past? Do you live together? Did you say anything you can't take back? Are you ready to admit you were wrong? Can you handle it if they don't admit they were wrong, too?

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A few months. Things were going very well. We don’t live together. It was more an action of mine that triggered some insecurity from him in terms of our relationship. I apologized but he wasn’t ready to receive it. I’m definitely afraid of the response or no response.

Cause we are fun

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And surprisingly insightful crowd-sourcing! Hope I provide the same 😇

Depending what the argument was surrounding, keep in mind if this break wasn’t mostly your decision reaching out could be annoying / creepy and not allowing the space necessary for your SO to get their mind around what happened and moving forward.

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Suggest counseling. If you don’t know if you’re making the right decisions, call in the professionals.

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My therapist canceled this week!

If you want to reach out, do. He might be wanting to reach out too but isn’t sure either

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