SO and I are taking a break after a heated argument. I don’t know if I should reach out, how to know when I should, or if I should wait for them to. Why am I asking you guys? I’m at a loss.

People who live with housemates / have a garden. Does it get noisy / do you find people in the garden earlier than (we) finish, that distract you from your work?

Also, living how is living next to a secondary school? Noise / traffic etc?

Thanks

Those in the US w/o green cards, how are you preparing to look after old parents in India? Moving back means giving up on what I want (living here). Can’t bring parents here w/o GC. What to do?

I hope he’s in as much pain as I am. The way he ended it was so cold and selfish and unlike how he was any other time with me. It was like a personality switch. I’ve never been so wrong about someone. I’m not sure how to process or recover from that part of it.

What are your top 3 tips for keeping your marriage 10/10?

I need 11 L to connect with friends.plz help me to get that

I'm done with this app. People are talking about that parents don't have the right to know if their kid wants to be called by a different pronoun and keeping things from parents. Makes me sick. I told them they're all fucked in the head. So I'll be booted soon. Good knowing some of you. Peace.

I ve been in Houston for like 8 months now. I am introverted, and I live by myself. I literally have no friends here outside of the folks I talk to at work.
I need help.

I just came home sobbing because I got too drunk at my female best friends house and her husbands male friend tried to take advantage of me when we were left alone in a hot tub. My boyfriend didn’t ask if I was okay but instead screamed at me, threw things and left the house. Dumping him is the only logical answer?? Am I crazy?

I don’t understand how someone can lie about loving you for 6 months. We were together for almost a year (broke up a week before our anniversary). I said I love you first and he said it back. I asked for more reassurance last month with saying I love you more often. Now all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he loved me and that love meant marriage for him. Okay well great thanks for telling me this now, 6 months after it was initially exchanged. I don’t understand how he could do that.

How many of you feel it’s important to marry a Brahmin?

Any book recommendations to gift my cousin sister? She studied (masters) psychology and is a trained classical dancer.

Anyone else stuck here without family? I'm in SF and my roommates are going home to their families tonight and i'm going to be alone, it's going to be a long 3 weeks..... 😭😭😭

Any female fishes in Houston? I'm moving there soon and need some new friends.

Any recommendations for books for desi parents ? Politics , economics, world order , self help

What do you do when your lifelong friends get married, have kids and disappear to the burbs or wherever and you’re single, lonely and gay?

Do you think you and your significant other should have similar personalities? My significant other and I are doing long distance and I feel like when I FaceTime with him, I emote more and show interest by asking more questions but from his end, he doesn’t always have a reaction or just nods, and it makes me feel like he’s uninterested. On his end he sees it as he’s comfortable.

When did you know your firm wasn't right for you? I'm not sure if it's just the stress of being a new attorney with a family or if my job isn't the right fit. I work in civil litigation and am consistently below my billables. I can't stay late because my kids need me and I can't work on the weekends because I have to maintain my house and take care of my kids. I'm being constantly told to work harder, stay later, etc but it's not practical. Or am I not approaching this with the right mindset?

Here to tell you guys that each of us mending from either leaving a bad relationship or having some leave us: things are going to be amazing for us! I believe if for myself and I am so happy! And meeting new people is FUN. Laughing with friends and being yourself, away from all the drama, pain. Liberate yourself by deciding this breakup is your evolution into your best self!

Girlfriend has very obvious high functioning anxiety and body image issues that she admits but thinks she doesn’t need therapy or medication and that reading self-help books will help her. It’s not changing in the last several years and it’s impacting our relationship. Anyone have experience with their SO dealing with untreated anxiety? I know I can’t control her but would like to express my feelings without sending her into a spiral. For context, I’ve been in therapy for 12 months and medicated

Jr–mid copywriter openings in NYC?

I have no credit history and am just out of undergrad making ~$100k. Any chance of me being approved for Citi Double Cash or Chase Freedom Unlimited? Do I need to get a “starter” card to build some credit first?

My problem with this bowl is it makes me want one of each kind of cat I see here and I have neither the space nor the budget!

2 part question:

- Does anyone know who Accenture uses for their 3rd party background checks?
- If i allow them to contact my current employer, do they still ask for W2’s and Paystubs?

Hello,

Can someone please refer for SAP BASIS/Hana in IBM?
YOE : 6.4
Notice period : 15 days
Preferred location : Bangalore

Thanks

When does cognizant roll out offer letters after submitting cdf1 form? Is Diwali delaying the roll out of the offer letter? I submitted cdf1 on 21st October.

What’s the deal with working remotely permanently?

Hello Everyone!

Wanted to know about certain things..I have been offered by Cvent for Accounts Management Role in Gurgaon..I have an experience of 3 yrs.. Can you guys suggest me what would be a suitable hike for this role in Gurgaon keeping in mind the current market/industry trend and my 3 yr experience.

Thanks!

Hi, I have a HR discussion with EXL this week for the post of manager.

What should be the fixed pay I should be asking for?

I have an interview for a technical writer position in the chemistry field. Coming from a lab based chemistry role I'm use to getting technical questions about my lab experience. With this role I'm interviewing for being office based, I'm not sure what questions they may ask. What interview questions can I expect for a technical writing position?

My company is under merger with ACN. Will I get a boost in my salary after pairing my level with ACN? Current role is senior engineer with 7+ years. Which level will I fit into ? And my current salary is much lower (20k) than ACN standard. Thanks.

I'm a part of PXT team, is it right to apply for diff roles internally at this time?

Opinions on Clyde & Co? Bonus points for Miami office. Looking for info on WLB, autonomy with work, level of difficulty billing enough for bonuses, general satisfaction, any interesting or unique selling points, etc. Thanks in advance!

I’ve only slept with one person, my wife. I have not openly shared this with anyone because there’s a stigma that I “settled” or I don’t have numbers on the board like a man should. I’m not overly religious, so that was never a driver in the equation. I admit, I do think about the “what if” every once in awhile but I’m honestly getting to the age where I feel I’m beyond my prime anyhow.

I love my SO but get unsure....they just went on a friends trip and came back and randomly said going on another one in two weeks. I said I wanted to spend time together so they came back next morning and said let's go away just us instead, which is awesome and I am happy BUT is it a red flag? They used to always be all about spending time together and now seems like I have to remind them to put us first in the past month. We both work hard and have kids so life is more complicated. Vent over.

My 30th birthday just passed and the first thing I thought was, "I'm so single. I'm going to die alone." I swear I'm a catch. Please date me 😭

I didn't apply for a job that would have set me up for the future in the government. I wouldn't have to worry about money or future jobs. My boss had just given me a small pay rise and talked up the future and so I felt good. I now severely regret not applying for the job and cannot stop thinking about it to the point of insomnia and depression. I even contacted the employer but too late. It's a small town and rarely anything comes up. I hate myself and feel like I failed my family. :(

My neighbor is a bit creepy/lonely (?). He comes over to chat when I’m outside working on the house or doing yard work and doesn’t catch on too well to social cues. He’ll mention small details about my routine or new changes to the house (just moved in). It’s a bit uncomfortable and I’ve had a few awkward moments with him already. Anyone else have any odd or awk neighbor experiences? How do you dealllll when you just don’t want to interact?

Still thinking about how a couple months ago i got so obliterated i started trying to speak Spanish w my Uber driver even after he told me he was not in fact Latino but Iranian to which i replied that my uncle knew someone who had been part of the hostage crisis 🫢

Is this whisper?

I delete all the words before the one word or letter I want to correct. 🤦‍♂️

I don’t trust cheese that doesn’t melt

Made an "insensitive comment" at the office today. Said, James Bond can't be a woman if James Bond is a guy. Psyching myself for the upcoming HR classes.

How do I consistently make my girl finish

I just finished watching several highly convincing YouTube videos and I’m telling you that you need to stop drinking bottled water. NOW.

So my friend (who I’ve been with in the past but it didn’t work) is getting married this June. I’m still in love with her and will probably cry uncontrollably (or at least make a shitty face) when it’s done, but I will be a best man at the wedding. Should I just man up and smile and wave at the ceremony?

I am just curious how many people are okay with spending more money on gas if it means “sticking it to Putin?” No judgement, I am just trying to gauge if reporting matches reality. Thank you and I hope you are all having a good morning (EST here) .

I think people who “kiss” their dogs/pet on their mouths are disgusting

Ok NOW I can finally say I passed all four parts of the CPA exam. I can’t even begin to tell you all how hard of a journey this has been for me and how much sleep I’ve lost throughout these past few months. It was all worth it though. I see people are announcing they passed on LinkedIn so just practicing again until I finally do.

Something has been bothering me for a long time and I want to get it off my chest.

My firm does upward feedback and I asked about 10 of my team to participate so that I could be a better supervisor for them. My results: I got mostly great feedback with constructive points, however along with it I received the meanest, most cold hearted criticism I’ve ever seen (con’t in comments).

Pro tip: you can significantly reduce your amount of laundry by wearing the same sweatpants and hoodie all week because you're a work from home bum that never leaves the house

My career goal isn’t to make it to MBB or a unicorn or FAANG. It’s to feel fulfilled and challenged as I progress. I can’t be the only one that isn’t title or company chasing.