So I published a paper in a trade journal (not a big deal IMO), hubby talked it up tonight at dinner w/my mom (she lives with us). My mom said “oh did you help with it?” I said no, I wrote it all. She said oh. She asked what it was about, so I gave a broad non-tech answer. And then in a split second I said “ and actually mom, I am one of the leading experts in the world in this area”. She just kind of looks at me and says “oh. The pharmacy down the street is closing”.
Sigh. Just a vent ☹️

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I get it completely, and I'm sorry. In a similar boat with a consistent lack of parental support.
But damn girl, go you! Congrats on the paper! Keep being awesome, and don't let anyone drag you down.

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Sending support. I would have received a similar reaction from my mother.

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Oh no :( I think it’s probably a mixture of her just not really understanding and also it’s a whole generational difference…. I experience the same kind of “meh” from my older relatives and it’s super frustrating. Especially myself being a woman. The glass ceiling never really went away. Especially through traditions and norms through our generations and cultures. I could go on a soap box but I’ll spare the world.. lol

Congratulations on your paper!!!! This is amazing! And to be one of the top most leading subject matter experts shows volumes for all of your hard work and dedication!!! A lot of people cease to realize how much dedication, time, and tears it takes to do not only your line of work, but to also write a paper on your free time too?!

⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️👊 you go!!!

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I’m hear ya. My mom had to go on last Christmas how my sister, who flits and bounces between jobs, is going to “change the world with her beautiful heart”. My husband tried to talk about what I do and my mom just said “oh yea she makes more than she should”… they’re never proud.

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Yea I know. 🙄

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Congrats on your publishing! That's an awesome accomplishment, IMO. Try not to take your mom's lack of enthusiasm to heart. I have learned over the years that my Mom just hasn't changed with the times. Her accomplishments in life were her kids, not that there's anything wrong with that, but any advancements her daughters make is not something she recognizes with any importance. It's somewhat sad, and sometimes hits the gut, that's why more women are shakin' things up.

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I’m sorry to hear that was her reaction.

My therapists calls moments like this “stealing joy”. Well done to your husband for sharing his pride and shining the light on you.

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That’s a good phrase.

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Boomers. 🤦🏻‍♀️. Congratulations on your paper! It is a big deal and you should feel proud. Sorry your mom’s reaction sucked. ☹️

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Also chiming in to say I experience similar things and am somewhat comforted to know I’m not alone. My dad always glosses over whenever I talk about work and changes the subject (or worse, starts to talk about my brother 🤦‍♀️). He’s kind of a self absorbed person so I try not to take it hard but I’m sick of it.

Also, does anyone else have this thing where no one in their lives ever asks about their job? Like, you’re successful in the corporate world so no one cares to ask or learn anything about your work life? 🤔

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Man, that stinks! I’m sorry.

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Thank you all for your comments. Sometimes knowing that it isn’t my perception that this kind of reaction is “off” and the fact that there are others in a similar situation does provide some level of “comfort” (but this really is t the right word). For those of you experiencing the same, I hope you all find a little joy today that is all yours!

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You’re allowed to vent and your feelings are valid. And you’re also allowed to celebrate your accomplishments! Keep being awesome and don’t let anyone tell you different! ❤️

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Hahaha, that’s something that my mom would say also :(
That reminded me of a funny story. I got pregnant with my first. I was for 6 years in a relationship with the father but not married. When I found out that I was pregnant, my (now) husband was away for work. He was traveling a lot for work that time. I wanted to wait for him to come back home before giving him the news. But I told my mom. She told me that she will help me with raising the kid if my boyfriend doesn’t want the kid or wants me to have an abortion as he would think he s not the father. My own mom was basically calling me a slut. 🤣🤣🤣

You go girl! Congratulations on your paper and your hard work! Kudos to your husband, tap yourself on your shoulder- another good choice!

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Oooof this hit me in the gut because I know exactly what you’re experiencing. I hope YOU are proud of yourself 💪🏼🌟

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This sucks. I also lack parental support. But I like to think mine comes from my parents having no idea what I or my company do. It’s very technical. Or that’s just my excuse to comfort myself 😂

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Similar situation here.

Some days I just have to take a big breathe and remember: There is a reason that mom lives with you.

Not downplaying what mom did and the gap that she should have filled. But I’m totally happy that your hubby talked it up. He is so proud of you and sees what that accomplishment means. I hope mom isn’t the only person that hubby is sharing this with.

Kudos for saying yes to a great hubby.

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Well I’m proud of you!! There is nothing small about this accomplishment. Sometimes our mothers cannot accept that we have accomplished more in our lives on our own than they have or will. Keep it up!!

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I've written books my mom, who lives with me, hasn't read, lol.

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This is very much how my conversation go with any family members and my dad especially. 😐

That said, congratulations! You are accomplished and should be proud of yourself.

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Gurl, she just humbling you down 😂

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