Are there any mothers here who voluntarily gave primary custody to the kids father? I love my children fiercely but tbh I don’t think I’m cut out to be a single parent. Family and friends tell me I’m a great mom but at the end of the day having them on my own is exhausting and I end up just either letting them do whatever they want Bc I don’t feel strong enough to set a limit about it, or yelling at them. They’re 4 and 7 for reference. Please constructive responses only. Thank you!

I just found out I am pregnant and the person is not a believer. I know i have sinned, and now i am so lost. Abortion has crossed my mind multiple times. Not sure what i am doing posting here, I just needed to vent.

What are some of the nice things that your SO do for you?

Let’s say you have two young, high income partners in a couple who want to buy a house together but don’t really care to get married. They already live together in an apartment but both want to move to a house to build equity and have a yard, not share walls, etc. Should one partner buy the house and the other pays rent until they get married, or should they get a mortgage together without being married? I realize there isn’t a “right” answer but I’m interested in people’s experiences here.

Random question but do you let your kids hang out in your bedroom and use your master bath if applicable? My kids always seem to want to use our bathroom instead of theirs and my spouse doesn't care but I grew up with my parent's room basically being off limits and think I'd prefer it that way.

Anyone know how much a full time nanny in the Austin area would cost?

Anyone feel as if it’s hard to stay with a company when you’re the only one of color? (&young) I’ve work for 3 companies in past 5 years and have yet to make meaningful colleague relationships. I just do not relate to the conversation and just find it hard to picture myself being a long-term employee. I’ve had better relationships when working at wal-mart when I was in college. I feel it takes away some of the joy of having to go to work.

People that have small children - how do you deal with your child’s stress and separation anxiety when you go to work? My 4-year old goes berserk almost every day at some point relating to me having to work. The worst part is that I’ve been working from home bc of Covid and I’m literally just walking upstairs after giving hugs and kisses and saying see you soon 800 times. My spouse is a stay at home parent, but that doesn’t seem to matter to my son. A piece of me dies everyday because of this.

I’m a Pro now, baby!

My wife texts me that my 15 month old constantly says "da-da" and walks to my office to see if him home and then looks sad when I'm not there. I don't think I can take this emotional torture. 😢

Which Big4 is better in terms of benefits ?
Considering the mobility, leaves, insurance and WLB. Who has the longest paternity leave ?

For parents with school-age kiddos (kindergarten up), what do you do for childcare? Thinking about giving up our nanny, but worried about juggling days off, sick days, and summer break.

How do you deal with parental guilt when you have to miss things? When my child was a baby it wasn't as big of a deal as long as I was around for the big stuff and was pulling my weight parent wise. Now that they're 4+ everything is big stuff, and every time I can't be there it really affects them. I know being successful in my career will set them up for the future, but it feels like I'm letting them down right now.

Been seeing a guy for a few months now and I can’t stop myself from getting in my head. I’ve never been in a solid relationship before like this and I’m afraid I’m going to mess it up. We’re together most nights and some nights I need a night off or some space, but when I don’t hear from him I get paranoid that I did something.
I don’t know how to just let things be and feel we’re as good as I know we are.

Did you ever have any issues with your family questioning what you do and saying it wasn't a "real job" ? They think being a social worker is fluffy and I should have just become an "actual doctor or psychiatrist"

Currently in industry at 135k salary, poor healthcare, amazing wlb, a month of parental leave, work is okay.

Considering data science roles at :
return to Deloitte aim for SC in GPS
trying out EY GPS aim for SC
Gov job range is 100-120k and would need to negotiate up pto otherwise I’d for sure decline

-any perspectives appreciated

Desi folks! Why do you let your parents manage your profile on the websites? It’s so uncomfortable when you get a call at 4 am saying “beta, we like your profile.” 🤷🏽‍♂️

SM on my project stepped away on paternity leave. SM was the one who led partner discussions and most of the client meetings. We're a week from a client deadline.

As a manager, I'm stepping but incredibly stress with the amount of moving parts. I don't have a strong rapport with the partner (Neither did the SM) to be open and transparent on how stressful I'm feeling without downgrading myself.

I'm sick to the stomach and very anxious, stressed at the suddenness of the thrust.

Help!

Confession: The only in-law that I had a great relationship with passed away unexpectedly. The two remaining in-laws were on thin ice with me prior due to years of drama, nagging, and disgusting display of wealth. I believe their demand of money and general assholish behavior drove in law to his death. I love my S.O. but I can’t deal with the drama anymore.

I want to have a family and a future that is drama-free and full of love and don’t want to surround myself with negativity.

Is CTC of 6 lpa(in hand) ,at 26 and 3 yoe too less?
PS: Ofcourse I am taking opinion for someone else not me 😅

Can you please suggest which one is better among logicmojo vs learnbay for Data Structures and Algorithm Instructor led course?

Please share your experience if any.

Hey Guys, can anyone help me with the ctc one can ask as a Golang developer in Bangalore. Current exp is 7 yrs.

Hi Fishes,
I have 6 YOE in financial reporting, if an opportunity in Morgan Stanley in fund accounting arises, should I go ahead with it or would it be a reverse step career wise, would appreciate insights on same and also of MSFS Fund accounting culture, WLB, if anyone can help with the same...
Thanks in advance, would appreciate your help

Hi everyone,
Is fire engineering a good field to be in? Can someone tell me about the pay scale, growth opportunities and the future scope of fire/Safety engineering?
Asking for a friend who’s done mechanical engineering and is thinking of specializing in fire eng

Thank you

2 in 1 laptop needed for MBA? Helpful at all?

Anyone use OneNote as a transactional lawyer? How do you like it? Trying to be more organized with all my ongoing deals!

My marketing people - does anyone else's company have a dedicated "Marketing Response Team" (MRT Team)? Or something similar? Might be called something else at other companies and I just have no clue.

If you could have chosen one subject in high school or college taught entirely through custom made video games, which would you have chosen, and why that one over the others?

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How can I live with my decisions and stop changing my mind about things?

Has anyone here considered exiting for a PE Fund of Funds?

Could someone help me break down the differences between a Data Analyst vs Data Scientist vs Product Manager? And add any pros/cons from personal experience? In my mind they’re all related, but I don’t have experience working with any of these roles.

Fake seizures- a sad thing but I saw them regularly on my unit!

Hi fishes,
What is the Average annual hike in amex?

Any one understood what Steve said about compensation and bonus revision yesterday ?

Salary range for lead analyst (band 28) non tech?

If I don’t have kids but I’m divorced. Can I still be part of this bowl?

Any tips for someone entering the process? How do I pick a lawyer? Do I try to agree with spouse on terms before finding lawyer? Have material assets accumulated during marriage.

How’s everyone doing? Any struggle this week?

Has anyone watched Marriage Story?

Hi all, looking for recommendations for a divorce lawyer in Houston area. Any recommendations would be helpful.

Divorce lawyers in Boston / Worcester?

Only divorce services for uncontested and amicable divorces

Thinking about divorce. Wife had an affair 3 years ago that I haven’t been able to move past. Been married 11 years and have two kids though. Restarting individual and couples therapy before I pull the trigger. Anyone else been in a similar situation? Should I blow up the family if I can’t get beyond this?

Anyone knows how alimony works ? In terms of salary ? How much more than your partner do you need to make, to be granted alimony… I’m asking because I have seen cases where one person sacrifices themselves studying and working hard, while the other person is basically doing the bare min, and they can get alimony if they separate ? In some cases, for life.

Divorce or not? Loveless marriage, but love our 2 children and enjoying being close to them. Seeing my brother struggle with joint custody and think this is not for me. Too lazy/busy to rock the boat.

How do I know if I am ready for a divorce?

Sister going through divorce with verbally abusive spouse, just received temporary judgement for custody of two year old and was awarded joint custody (she was anticipating she’d get sole custody). It’s tearing her apart and I can’t help/live in another state. Anyone have a good recommendation for family lawyers or counselors in/around Phoenix? Any good support groups that could help?

Has anyone found dating having kids challenging?

Stupid question but getting a divorce now and having a hard time figuring out what to do with sentimental things such as wedding pictures, travel pics, ornaments we bought together, etc. What did you do? Relationship was over 12 years and don’t know what to do. Should I jus pretend that those 12 years never happened or she was not there?

Divorce is amicable and based on growing apart rather than bc of cheating or fighting or anything else..

Wife got lawyer, and I am interviewing lawyers starting tomorrow. I am primary breadwinner (95%), but she is citing at-fault divorce. I have been having substance abuse issues and anger issues (no physical violence). Need help. She is okay about negotiating outside lawyers. Can anyone recommend a divorce lawyer in ATL area? Any pointers? No kids. Married for 3 years. I paid her student loans and put her through school.

My husband repeatedly claims domestic abuse falsely, and it’s getting too much. Now that I have kids he has started saying this to them and they say it back to me. I think he does this because he wants custody of kids or an upper hand when it comes to finances if we end up divorcing. Any ideas on how to handle this

I live in VA, been married for 6 years and have no kids. My spouse and I are just separated and about to get divorced in a month. My spouse left their job a year after we married due to which, I need.

I have 1 one year old and have told my husband that I want to get divorced. He is being immature about the process and is just trying to make everything difficult. Sometimes he says he will move out, then he says the baby and I should, sometimes he says he wants custody when the real reason im leaving is his lack of interest amd resppnsibility toward our family. I can tell he is hurt and is upset that i dont love him anymore and want to get everything ready to make the exit easy. How do I start?

Anyone co-parenting in different states? Looking for insight on visitation, general feelings, and how the child/children are doing. Thank you!

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