Worth sharing even though this sentiment is in many places. Your company will forget your commitment in 20 years. Your kids won't forget you not being there once they've gone off to college.

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I upvoted you OP, however it is all a balancing act. Kids will also forever appreciate you paying for their education, especially when they are grown and better understand what it took.

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Even if I could afford to pay for my kids education, I don't know if I would. I would help of course, but I honestly think paying off student loans is character building and educational in its own right. It teaches you fiscal responsibility, which many of us lack, and the honest notion that you have to pay for what you want - you can't just expect to get things. That's how I feel and I still owe ~$15K in loans myself.

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To be fair, your company will forget your commitment after a few months.

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I wish my parents worked more and I didn't grow up poor in a shitty neighborhood and bad school

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She's only 2... she won't remember. We good homes!

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There are enough jobs out there that help you pay for kids college and don't require traveling. The thing about paying for kids college is a cop out answer.

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I still haven't forgotten the days my mom wasn't home until after I was asleep, or the feeling of not understanding why she didn't come to the school events like all my friends' moms did... yet I still chose her career path. She paid for my college, I've wanted for nothing, etc. but you can't get those memories back. Not ungrateful at all, but I'm definitely not going to raise my kids the same way. There has to be a balance.

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My dad traveled a lot when I was growing up and now I am doing the same to my wife and 2 kids 😔

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I can't see why these 2 have to be mutually exclusive.

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My parents were both middle school teachers and were always home when I was home (afternoons, weekends, summers, etc.). While I was sometimes frustrated that we were not as well off as other kids families, I definitely wouldn't trade my childhood for one with absent parents and more money. But now that I'm 31 and thinking about starting a family, it's hard for me to imagine walking away from the consulting money (and the lifestyle it enables) to be more present for my future kids.

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But what if that college is free

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One of my parents was a Big 4 Advisory Principal and I don't have a worse relationship with them because of it. I appreciate the sentiment but making people feel like they cannot be good parents while doing this job is misguided.

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But they will appreciate you being able to pay for college. More than 5 kids and my current and former partners are some of my closet friends and were at kids graduations, etc

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Definitely agree that there needs to be balance, but I think for women especially it is good for daughters to be able to look up to moms who have high powered careers and love what they do. My mom is an attorney, went to law school when I was 5, and I have the utmost respect for her building her career while being the best mom she could be. I want to be the same role model for my kids and also provide them a life of comfort and stability.

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I'm by no means encouraging everyone to leave the industry. It's a problem that a lot of people wrestle with, and I find this sentiment powerful in helping me choose which is more important. While some can balance both, not all can.

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This thread got deep real quick.

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I'm working my ass off to pay off my house. Then I'm gonna become a high school teacher or professor at a community college. I want my afternoons and evenings with my kids. Summers would be a plus too.

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All the kids thT had parents always there especially the mommies that did their laundry, wiped their butts and did everything are mess ups

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Nicely said A2. Reminds me the ex cocoa cola CEO retirement speech about the 5 balls. You can see it online

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My dad is a partner at the firm. I'm 27 just got promoted and I'm at a total crossroads with this job. I know I want a wife and kids and feel like I'm dating the one. I know that this job will allow me to be a fantastic provider, but I know I'd rather be a fantastic husband and father. I'm going to stick it out and work hard so I can become both

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