Timing on 3rd child. Baby 1 is 18 months (girl). Baby 2 is 3 months (girl). We are considering a 3rd. Both were relatively smooth vaginal delivery….

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I find the ages of 2-4 to be challenging toddler territory, you havent even breached that window with any of the kids yet... maybe just go for 3 now before you find out how hard it is?? 😆 🤣 😂

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haha this!!

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Space out for your sanity is my vote. You’ll be able to savor that last one and they’ll be everyone’s baby vs. struggling to survive and missing all the good stuff. But I’m biased this way. Mine are 4 years and then 3.5 years apart and I love it.

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Option 1 - try soon / potential 15 month split (Ie same between 1/2 as 2/3). Pro… they are all close. Con… we might have 3 under 3
Option 2 - consider 24 month+split. Pro : avoid 3 under 3; con : then 3rd baby might be far away from other two. And we likely won’t have a 4th.

Any anecdotal thoughts/comments as we consider our path?

You gotta do what feels right to you. I am one of four and four feels like too many to me. I’d aim for a 24+ month split

I have a nearly 3 yr old and a 10 month old (23 months apart) and I’m thinking next baby I want a 3 year age gap. Toddler years are tough

mine are 23 months apart too, currently 3.5 and 1.5. would love a 3-3.5 year age gap next time!

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I have a newly turned 3 year old and a 5 month old. We also want a third, but the youngest needs to be nearing 4 years old by the time a third comes along. My 3 year old really needs me emotionally and physically, and I need the kids to be more independent/older for their well being and my sanity before we add another.

I wanted and got a close age gap, and now it's time to focus solely on them for a few years.

Wow !! This totally unique to your wants and situation but I commend you for having basically 2 babies as their age gap is only 15 months… if it were me I’d give it some time on the third and give yourself a 24 month age gap between the 3rd and your 2nd… but this is also coming from someone who is about to have her second baby and already has a 3 year old … I can’t imagine having potty trained him and all the other things that came up with another kid in tow. Don’t get me wrong I think families who can manage this are incredible and if you want super close age gaps it is certainly something a lot of people choose ! Because of my age if I were to have a 3rd I would need to have them essentially 2 years apart max and the thought of that alone stressing me out haha - congrats though on your new baby and growing family !!

From a health perspective — it takes at least 12 months (actually closer to 18mo) for your body to fully heal, recover, and replenish nutrients like iron and folate after pregnancy. So for that reason, I usually recommend waiting until at least 12m PP.

If you are breastfeeding, your supply can change or go away during pregnancy (not always, but can) so that might factor into the decision.

Anecdotally, we got pregnant the month my oldest turned 2 and I really like their age gap.

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