Was at a bris. There was a hot guy sitting next to me and my friend was trying to talk to him. My friend asked him what year he was born and the guy stopped responding. This is not a normal question you ask a stranger. She was clearly sizing him up.

Am I the only one who feels like Jewish singles size each other up using checklists that reduce people to mere bullet points on a resume? Men do it to women as well (ALL the time and even moreso). Why can't people just get to know each other?

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I mean…if I meet a guy at a bar and we’re chatting, I might ask how old he is before exchanging numbers. It isn’t that unusual. My friends who dated looking for marriage definitely had things they filtered for early on. If someone knows what they want, it’s better for both sides to be clear about it early on and not waste anyone’s time.

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I understand, that’s especially hard in your position and I’m sure you get some really inappropriate questions. My friend’s mom converted and she still gets weird questions as a result, so you are not alone in that. Asking a woman her age is absolutely different imo (I’m also a woman).

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Why did someone bring a friend to a bris?

We were all friends of the father and invited separately and we all sat at the same table at the brunch/kiddush after the ceremony

That’s so awkward - dating is horrific, but Jewish dating is even more special lol

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