We both are in our mid 30s. Its been 3yrs after our kids were born, there’s no intimacy between us jot sure why. We always talk about lets get dirty tonight but that never happens. Though there’s difference in how much we love each other but my wife seems to be not interested anymore. And well she is loosing interest in a lot of things lately :(
Any advice what to do 🙂

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Usually comes down to two things:

1. She’s tired. How often do you help around the house?
And I mean really help. Not asking her for help and do a detailed job of getting it done? Cleaning the toilet, taking out the trash. Getting the kids ready for school, getting their bath, making sure they’ve eaten. Without asking her to help?

2. Does she feel sexy? Are you doing romantic things for her like leaving cute little notes saying what you’ll do to her? Telling her you appreciate her for what she’s done. Telling her how beautiful she is? Leaving little gifts or planning cute date nights?

Usually once kids come into the picture the relationship between the parents takes a backseat and thus the physical intimacy does as well.

Be honest with yourself and her.

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I’m a woman as well. It seems so simple to us but can “not compute” to others..

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Well, i think you guys should take time for each other , now your kid is grown up, you can send him to nana-nani or dada -dadi house for few days and you should plan for a trip. Make this trip memorable , surprise her , gift her , make her happy 😊

And btw in normal days try to enjoy with kids, try to help her in household chores or with kid’s work .. help her in day to day life and then try to approach her for love ❤️ .. see women’s priority changes after baby that’s true but they also want and crave for love .. only thing is her responsibility is increased , her focus is diverted so try to involve in it so that she gets time for herself .. say that u will take care of kid , and u go and enjoy a party or nice spa/salon session ..or may b shopping .. see her mood will be lifted .. the more time u spend with kid the more happier she will be

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That is very common

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No intimacy post kids is quite common. It is just nature’s way of ensuring that you cant procreate more(JK).

There was a post few days earlier around intimacy in marriage. Some good ideas were discussed there. Apart from hormone therapy and getting help with the kids, there is nothing you can do to spark up intimacy. Something changes in women post childbirth. As men, we find it difficult to accept. The idea is that you have to build the relationship from geound zero post kids.There is always the route of extra marital but the benefits are way too less compared to the cost.

Story of my life! It’s really frustrating when we get to bed at night and although we spoke about getting intimate during the day she just gets to tired at night.

We both work from home some days and occasionally we find time for some afternoon delight. It really helps the relationship.

I am bad at this, but having dates is crucial.

Hard to find the relationship part when kids, work and life get in the way. It’s a work in progress, I am far far from perfect. Best of luck!

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