Wow my girlfriend is kicking me out of my home office because it's "hard for her to go in the other room and take a phone call."

It's going to be so much fun looking for an office space, paying for it, and driving there every day so my future wife can sit at home and talk on the phone and watch TV without the burden of me making money we live on distracting her.

Insert wild scream here

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Uh i hate to sound harsh but that’s a giant red flag not to marry this woman

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Good luck man, I would seriously think about your relationship.

You have to respect her but she needs to respect you as well equally and right now it seems lopsided.

I’m sure you love her and know exactly why you love her, do you know exactly why she loves you and what she respects about you. Relationships and marriage is about accepting each other’s situation some might call it sacrifice and compromise but I call it part of the deal. If she really loves you and wants to marry you then for right now your home office is part of the deal. Maybe later on as your career progresses you can get a bigger place or go back into the office but right now this is the situation. She has to accept that, especially if she is not working.

Sorry to be all serious and you just might be venting here but if she is doing this now, it is a red flag.

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Thank you for the thoughtful words, I'm totally venting and appreciate the empathy

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This is insane. Sorry but you are crazy to even entertain this shit. It’s your office since you are working. An office isn’t for TV. I hope you reflect on your relationship and future as this is a huge red flag. I’m embarrass women out there act like this. If I wasn’t working I’d get the hell out of the way for my husband while he was.

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Run now while you still can.

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Neither of you sounds happy with the other. Why are you getting married?

No offense, but your lady sounds spoiled and clueless.

And also: a NY woman would never do this. Move there and they will be on you like crazy.

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That wasn't my point. But I would say that NYC can be affordable if you pick the right neighborhood. Plus salaries and day rates are at least 1/3 higher.

You are getting kicked out of YOUR home office?

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Thank you for letting me VENT !

I love my fiancee and she's going thru some stuff so I really think we can come to terms on this. Appreciate the support that I'm not crazy.

Btw... I'm a woman too. Should I ask her if this would be acceptable if I was a man? 🤔

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You are not crazy! Unacceptable for anyone to expect this given the current circumstances. Hope you two work things out!

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Ugh. Not only does my wife respect my office space and time behind closed doors, we moved both of our kids into one room so I could stop working at the dining room table. Everyone needs a good place to get work done.

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My best friend just got divorced after ten years of marriage to her now-ex wife. The ex made my friend’s home a hostile environment from the jump. She policed everything. Energy like this. PLEASE think very critically about who this person is and if they fit into your life before you get married. My friend had to pay her asshole, freeloading ex wife a lot of money to get her out of her life. I hope that doesn’t happen to you.

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