Young Single dad, trying to balance everything paying all these bills myself. Dealing with my kid calling someone else dad. Need some support... My friends don't have kids. I need dad friends!

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Advice #2: never say anything bad about your ex in front of your child. No matter how much you may want to, don’t do it. Speaking from experience on this one. This is one case you really are better to take the high road

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I lived by that rule and now I have a 17 year old daughter that will still snuggle with me on the couch. She’d rather be with me now than her mom

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Just know that one day your kid will come to the understanding that you are the greatest man in their life. Might take sometime but it will happen!

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Big hug, OP. That would just crush me. Hang in there—I’m sure your kid knows how much you love them.

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Just be there. And anytime you commit anything to the kid - make sure you follow through. For a three year old you are Superman - and only you can change that.

Stay strong

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Hang in there, OP. KPMG1 is right.

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I’m a single dad, but remarried and only see my 3 yr old (turns 4 this weekend) daughter every other weekend. My daughter and I do daily FaceTime sessions since she was a year old but now she can hold the phone up on her own and calls me all the time just to say hello and good night. Video conferencing has really helped bridge the distance as I live in Texas and travel to Florida every two weeks to spend the weekend with her. We stay at my parents’ house. I joined a cool website called wonderdads. Check it out! It gives you lots of fun things to do with your kids so you feel you’re building strong memories. I agree with other dad’s in the group. Don’t ever show any type of distaste or animosity for your ex. Always be a gentleman regardless of how horrible and manipulating your ex is.

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Ouch... that’s tough man. You may not want to hear this but perhaps think of a different career..young years are tough to be away with no support at home

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As a former single dad best advice I can give is to try and connect with your son as often as possible. My son now is in college and calls me for advice, not her.

Good luck! It is a difficult road.

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Single dad of 2 here. Make your limited time with him count. Read together play games and horse around. Don't let the TV or other electronic devices become a disturbance.

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Thanks again guys - I just got to spend 5 days with my son and it was great, making those memories

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First piece of advice: don’t blame the kid if they are calling someone else dad

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I'm trying not to let it bother me, he's only 3. Mostly mad because his mom suggested it to him...

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Which area are you, OP?

As for the rest of the commenters here, I wish I could choose more than one of the like-buttons per comment. Especially yours, KPMG1. I’d choose all of them, minus maybe the funny one.

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I agree with Jeremy. Mine was at her mom’s a couple weeks ago when she broke up with her boyfriend. She called and FaceTimed me from her bedroom at her mom’s house.
Just be the best parent that you can

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Keep your head up brother and know that you and your ex will only love you kid more than anyone else

My parents divorced when I was young while I lived with my mom she constantly trashed my dad. I realized around 10-12 that many of the things she said weren’t accurate or couldn’t be true.

I can already tell that You’re being a good dad so just be positive and loving with your kid and all will be fine

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How often do you get to see your child? I am assuming he/she does not live with you.

I have him Friday through Monday morning typically

I'm in Chicago. Thanks all for the support!

I feel you man. Only one of my coworkers is married. No one else has kids so theres no one here i can relate to

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