Any advice on exiting a company with grace and kindness? I’ve hear partners at my firm can say pretty nasty things to try to get you to stay/guilt you.

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Echoing BCG1’s comment about where we find our true identities in Christ. If want to see a fantastic example of what this looks like in real life read Chapter 6 of Mark Ritchie’s ‘My Trading Bible.’ Very good example of how out apologetics should inform our ethics.

It also means being clear about your intentions, staying commented to earning you pay until your last day, and setting up the team/practice/company to get along without you. Don’t give people a reason to speak ill of you. Of the partner do anyway that’s all the more reason to shake their dust off your sandals.

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Remember your identity is first in Christ, not in EY. Pray to him and keep in your heart as you leave. And remember, if Christ can ask God for forgiveness on the people who were killing him, surely God will give you strength to keep your head held high/in kindness and gratitude as you depart.

That doesn’t mean you’re fully at peace—even months after I left my previous place, I’m still dealing with resentment—but trust in God to carry you through the now, to offer forgiveness to those who may treat you harshly.

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You don’t have to tell anyone where you are going or why. When people leave my firm, I always want to know where they are headed. (I want to know what we are doing or not doing that we can improve.) But I accept “I’d rather not say” for an answer. It’s completely fine to keep your reasons and next steps to yourself. If they start badgering you, you can avoid, avoid, avoid. Best of luck!

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If they say nasty things to you I might reply with, “That’s hurtful. I will make sure to to do some knowledge transfer and hand over or finish up my work before I leave to help transition.” Then follow up with a summary in writing, pray, breathe, be glad you’re not going to keep working for people who behave this way.

Only express gratitude when leaving. Pray that God would protect you from being affected by unpleasant things when they are said to you. Peace be with you, my dear!

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