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What are base salaries at for B4 M1s in FDD now?
I have an offer with Capita plc for 22 LPA for 5 yoe.
It's complete WFH.
Tech stack is spring boot and microservices.
Is it a product based company or a service based company?
How wlb will be in Capita plc?
I have been offered 6A band as senior software engineer, so is 22LPA fair compensation?
Thanks in advance.
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Visually impaired boss lady here. Was in gifted and talented in school and unofficially diagnosed as potentially on the spectrum.
I let them explain if it's not too long or too off topic. It makes them feel heard and I find stopping them just makes them keep trying over and over. If I give them a minute or two to get it out of their system and make a comment to confirm I've understood what they said, we get along much better and can move forward faster to whatever the issue at hand is.
I run into this more with older gentlemen and I believe they just have a need to feel like they have value to add and to feel heard. They may feel a bit insecure. That I can understand and empathize with.
I often try and find some common ground around a area of interest or concern to work together on. Show some interest and share ideas - maybe find an initiative or process change you could support each other to test. Ignore the mansplaining in public or group meetings then later (privately) ask them why they felt the need to share that info in that way when it was not the way they would act with other colleagues asking a similar Q. Keep the gender out of it. I have found success when I Frame it as a ‘can you please help me understand why…’ query. It helps to listen and use their reasoning (literally repeat it back to them word for word) to ask more Q’s framed around the ‘why’ Why was this query responded to with detail when others were approached more succinctly etc
ADHD/OCD boss lady here. My experience has been that folks who want to mansplain often interrupt me to do so. This allows me to call them in on the interruption (something easily noticed) instead of the mansplaining (can be subjective). I have also shared with these folks 1:1 that women are more likely to lead with the punchline and then add context as opposed to men who are more likely to lead with context and then deliver the punchline. All this to say, they would have seen that I know what I'm doing if they hadn't interrupted me.