Anyone debating whether they want to return to work after baby? This will be my 3rd and it’s been on my mind.

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🤚🏾currently on my maternity leave with baby #1. I don’t want to go back for at least a year 😩

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I wish I could stay home and just freelance.

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Absolutely me! I have no desire to keep up this level of work life, unfortunately looks like that won't be in the cards to slow down just yet

I haven’t even had my baby yet (21 weeks) and I’m already looking forward to MAT leave and not working at my agency job (even though I know having a newborn is work.) I’m worried that feeling won’t go away when my MAT leave is up though - and I definitely will need to go back to work bc income

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