Are rehearsal dinners a must? We’re already over budget and another dinner would significantly add to the expense. Thoughts?

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Just a clarification- it’s a destination wedding and we don’t have a wedding party (no bridesmaids or groomsmen) but we were thinking of having a rehearsal dinner for the people who are traveling (my half of the family lives already in the area). However everywhere I’m asking it’s $100 per person and it just adds us very quickly. Really unsure what to do

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What you are looking for is a welcome party since you are not rehearsing anything. Don't call it a dinner since people expect full meals. The welcome party can be a few small bites and open bar (or wine / beer, cash bar for mixed drinks)

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Not sure if they are required but we are thinking about doing to go pizza and drinks at a family members house to limit expenses on ours. Decided it was not worth the expense to have at a restaurant and then we can also invite a more people at a fraction of the cost

I love this idea! We wanted to host a quiet, intimate dinner for everyone and this seems like a nice balance

If you’re having a rehearsal you should host something, but pizza is 100% fine.

Rehearsal dinner is a nice appreciation to all those involved in the wedding party but totally understand not wanting to hold one if expenses are already tight. Pizza is always an option or a chain restaurant catering service?

generally no they’re not a must, but if people are traveling it’s nice to provide. you can do a welcome party instead? so just some drinks and small plate situation instead of a full sit down dinner

It would be nice but it's not a must. If you are over the budget don't force it to happen especially when no is expecting that someone else will bear the expense of the dinner.

You don't have to do one, but it is customary, and it's a great way for everyone to connect before the wedding. It's expensive though, for sure, so it's understandable if you would want to find a cost-effective option. Here are some fun ideas you could consider: https://affordableweddingvenuesandmenus.com/blog/cheap-rehearsal-dinner-ideas

Not really. But I'd say it is a nice gesture of appreciation to those who will attend your big day. You don't really have to if you're short on budget.

If you're hosting a rehearsal dinner, it's customary in many places to thank the wedding party for their time with food and beverages. It does not have to follow the usual sit-down, served meal style. Appetizers and beverages are ok as long as there is enough food to make a meal.

It is not required to be fancy or lengthy. Even ordering pizza to the site may be entertaining enough.

I would at least have a rehearsal so your wedding party can practice walking down the aisle in the proper sequence and time, but otherwise, I see nothing wrong with doing something low-key after that!

I'm not planning a rehearsal or a rehearsal dinner. I'm already planning on paying for catering on the big day, and I want to do it as inexpensively as possible because my future hubby and I want to move in together around the time we are married.

I didn't have one of these. The night before the wedding, the last thing I wanted to do was throw a party. I wanted to get things ready and rest so that I could be refreshed the next morning. No one questioned me, and they were undoubtedly relieved that they could also relax.

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