Back in August I went on a first date and ended up having drunken sex that I basically slept through. I initiated it. He ghosted me after. More disappointed in myself than pissed at him. I developed an aversion to dating and men in general after that. Barely dated since. Swipe left on nearly everyone. Feel zero enthusiasm for any match. Couldn’t wait to leave a recent first date - he was not my type but was nice and interesting, I wouldn’t have behaved this way in the past.

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I've had similar feelings after having a negative experience. It's made me incredibly cynical about basically all men, it's easy to get bitter - I know! All I can say is that genuinely taking a step back and a break from the whole dating/sex scene has been helpful. It's okay to take some time to heal, definitely speak to someone and find a support network. The second someone tries to write it off or qualify why you shouldn't be upset - cut it off! Your feelings are totally valid. If you have a good guy in your life, platonically, it's great to lean into them too and remind yourself that not every cis, straight guy is a bucket of slime with monkey instincts lol.

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I’m really sorry you went through this. I very much relate to a lot of what you have experienced and felt and all I can offer is a virtual hug. Sex should have enthusiastic consent 100% of the way through so if you were so drunk you were asleep, that is disturbing that he never checked in with you or stopped, regardless of who initiated it. It’s not your fault and I completely understand why you feel the way you do. If you ever want to chat, I am here. Also, anyone who laughed at this is the worst example of the disgusting toxic slime polluting this industry.

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