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So I've had 2 hiring managers and several recruiters from Amazon reach out to me about applying for some open positions with the company (android). I completed the coding assessment and now they want me to go through a round of 5 hour interviews next week. Is there a good chance I'll be hired if engineering managers are reaching out to me? I'm really not sure how badly I want to work for them and I don't want to be laid off months after being hired on. Anyone know what Amazon hiring is like?
Any one got the retention offer from TCS ?
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I was having similar issues last week. I found the root of my own issue in the third step. Below are a few questions that might help you reframe the situation.
1. What's your role in why they'd want to push you out?
2. Why do you feel the need to take on their mismanagement? Your way is not the only way. Your company is a higher power than you, go along with the ride you'll just tire yourself out.
3. What's within your span of control that you CAN do?
4. What's management's perspective? What are they trying to do? Is there a way you can be of more service to those goals, as they've defined them?
It's likely you have a choice to be right, jobless, and drunk or to be wrong (humble) employed and sober.
Hang in there! It's tough dealing with work stress, especially when it feels like things are out of your control. Taking it one day at a time is the way to go. Remember, you're stronger than you think, and choosing to stay sober today is a big win. You got this!
Applying for new jobs is actually giving me some relief. Still sober. Day 2 is almost in the books.
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If you had a sponsor, they might (after talking through the details with you) advise you to not make any dramatic life changes in your first 6 months. Alcoholism has a way of tricking us into thinking a change of scenery will fix things for us.
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Are you giving 100 % at work? At times when I've felt like this, I've done a thorough 10th step inventory, and it turns out that I was procrastinating or otherwise focusing on things nother than work during the day. I began to take action on what was revealed to me, and shortly thereafter, I no longer was in fear of losing my job.
That's not to say that there isn't a real concern to be had in your situation, though in all cases, how you feel about the situation is 100% on you.
The one time where where my fear and anger were valid due to having a micromanager put me on a PIP, I again did a thorough 10th step to see my part, and I was then calmly and objectively able to decide to start lookingnfor a new job, rather than wasting any more time stewing in my emotions. God again provided the job that I had been praying for, with lower stress, an amazing and caring manager, and a better OTE.
So, I struggle, because As the only IT in my department, I ended up having two non-technical managers. I have been basically training them to manage me, for the most part. There's a long back story of small stuff that is being done, that is giving me red flags, but most recently, I got a 2/5 on one of my goals for review as my boss said that I should have been able to do it, but he was the one that told me to wait on it, and at the end of the review, he said he really has no idea what my job entails. I have since been pulled back into the office from working from home.
The reason I am so angry about it is because of how much work I pour into this place. I have been giving them strategy to make a strong technical department, I have been trying to solve the staffing problem, in 7 years, our downtime has gone down 14%, and over half was directly because of me, pouring myself into this place and giving them my technical and managerial expertise. I was once told a good leader knows when to follow, and I have been.
I hate how my coping mechanism turned to alcohol. Even more, I hate negative feelings. I was sober yesterday though, I'm choosing it again today.
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Agree with IBM. AA will help you manage these feelings. Stopping drinking without a program will likely make you a "dry drunk"
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There are three things that I’ve used in the past to get through stressful work situations:
- Focus on helping other people. I’m at my worst when I start to become entitled and judgmental. I’m at my best when I take a break from being selfish and see where I can make someone else’s day a little better.
- Make a gratitude list. When I’m in a work funk it’s amazing how quickly I dismiss all the good things in my life. Writing them down (and sometimes sharing them with other people) reminds me that everything is ok and that I have a lot to be grateful for, even though work might be a pain at the moment.
- Talking to someone else about my stress and how it makes me think about a drink. If I can get it off my chest there’s a much better chance I won’t end up with booze in my belly.
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Be careful when saying “need to” or “should”. Don’t forget to give yourself a little grace; you’re going through a hard thing, amplified by sobriety, and that’s not easy for ANYONE. It gets easier when we realize we don’t have to go through it alone. No one can make it go away, but they can lighten the load. The power of the pause useful in these scenarios too; pause so you don’t say something you’ll regret, and also pause to just breathe and trust that it’ll all work out okay. :)