Been seeing this guy for 1 year now. I just became an American citizen so have been getting more into politics. I lean left but the guy I’m seeing leans more conservative. He treats me so well and we get along great. Yes we disagree about topics but have respectful conversations and have both become more open minded. He doesn’t think it’s an issue. I feel like the media and the judgement of dating someone on the right is getting to me & making me have negative sabotaging thoughts. Any advice?

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Sides don’t matter unless you’re dealing with an extremist

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I genuinely don’t think this matters unless he’s some MAGA nut.

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Stop following the media, or find other truthful outlets of media that aren’t as politically charged and divisive.

If the media alone is turning you against your own S/O, there’s something to be said about that media outlet.

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How do you not even know this basic thing about him after a year lol

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No one will judge you for dating a centrist who leans right. About 40% of Americans fall into that category.

I would only worry if he’s posting conspiracy theories on social media or pushing extreme views. My wife and I are on different sides of the political spectrum and it’s never been a problem because we respect each others’ views.

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Just agree to disagree

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Cut off the media…I’ve been off TV news networks for 1.5 yrs and my life has been so much better lol. I still keep subscriptions to WSJ and NYT and scroll headlines so I’m not totally out of the loop, but it’s my view that most of the stuff that’s reported on daily is of little to no consequence anyway. If there are topics that interest you, you can keep up via books and podcasts…you can usually get a much more informed and nuanced take on things that way compared to daily news articles/media.

Fwiw, I lean more conservative and my bf leans more liberal…we have some spirited discussions every now and then 😂 but it never gets personal, and there’s a lot more to our relationship and to who we are as people than our political leanings anyway…being “off” media has really brought that to light.

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If he doesn’t think it’s an issue. And you don’t feel like it’s an issue … then it’s not an issue.

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Welcome to America 🇺🇸😂😅

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Does he "lean conservative" (so do I) or is he a borderline fascist who thinks it's appropriate to use violence to overturn the results of an election and sees politics as a method of creating a white ethnostate with enforced Christian morality? One you can easily either agree to disagree or have adult conversations about, the other deserves to be banished back to Reddit

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Nah I'm just the type to care a lot about little things like freedom and the constitution

If you’re relatively close to center (both of you) I think that’s fine.

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Most people in this country are centrists. Unless he’s far right leaning, conspiracy theorist, anti-“minority’s talking about anything bad happening to them”, paranoid, Trump-fanboy, give it a go!

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Don't let media positioning of left/right determine whether you be with this guy. The more important question is whether your values are similar. By definition, most of us are centrists, and the more that's true, the less left/right matters.

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Ignore these ppl. If it does matter to you whether others find it legitimate or not, it will eat away at you. It's easier to cut ties now vs when he's more of a sunk cost later

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Politics doesn’t need to be in every facet of your life. If you see yourself with him LT, I imagine you could easily put this behind you, concerning it has an impact on you… maybe evaluate the relationship?

The media doesn't care about you. Turn off the tv and make your own choices. If you guys get along and don't want to kill each other, there's no problem.

Don’t let it get to you. Unless there’s something that’s a major sensitive issue that you differ on, it shouldn’t be an issue. Have you talked about how you’d handle things if you have an unplanned pregnancy? That, for example, is one political discussion that can get personal for people with different opinions.

If he’s not rich and he’s conservative hard pass. You have no business or capital to even think like that LOL

Politics isn’t a personality trait, grow up and understand people can be different than your thought process. Just be a respectful normal human being that understands, in American people are allow to have their own thoughts and opinions.

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