Been with my boyfriend for 4 years. His family is much more wealthier than mine (6 cars, owns 4 houses, part of 3 businesses). My family is middle class and I feel inadequate around his family because they’re so wealthy. I feel depressed because I can’t live his lifestyle and sad for our future. His family just bought a house for us and my family can’t even buy a second car. Idk how to go about this situation.

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I’ll date him if you guys broke up. 😂

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I know. Where is the author, we need an answer. 😂

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Your worth is not related to his family’s wealth. Try to avoid comparing what his family has to yours and be thankful for the perks. I hope his family is kind.

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Yeah.....you don’t really understand the situation. A wealthy family like that are usually intrusive and will likely influence their boy (it’s quite easy to influence with the threat of no inheritance).

@OP, how much you should proceed depends on how much independence your bf has from his family.

If he’s quite independent, there’s hope that he will try his best to shield you from the hassles.

If he’s not quite independent, there’s huge odds that it ain’t gonna work out.

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Can confirm this works the other way around. Born into poverty and still pretty broke / terrible with money but have been fortunate to be in a relationship with much more affluent counterparts. You’ll get used to it OP- at the end of the day, what truly matters is the connection between the two of you.

As a male, I personally would not be interested in that. I want to earn my own house, cars, etc. I wouldn’t accept things like that from my parents, and certainly not from a girlfriend’s parents. Being handed everything takes the sense of satisfaction and accomplishment out. That’s my opinion.

Real life Crazy Rich Asians.

Whats the issue? You love him for him not his family. The family’s wealth is just a bonus. Dont lose sight

OP If he loves you he loves you! Don’t worry about it and feel confident in yourself for the person you are and everything you’ve achieved in life. Watch the movie Crazy Rich Asians too ☺️

OP, I'm in your same shoes. Please DM me if you ever want to talk. My SO's family is way wealthier than mine and as a result sometimes it's led to conflicts between us on certain behaviors that we always work out. Just glad to have someone who understands

Give yourself time... you may adjust. Please don’t overwhelm yourself with insecurities 💕

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