Been with my boyfriend for two years and his mom crossed quite a few boundaries over the holiday. I’ve always known she was dramatic and seen her be quite mean to her two daughters in law, wondering if this is what I want in my life forever and if anyone has advice on how to make it better - thanks!

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When you marry you also get a new family. You aren’t engaged yet but you are gonna be stuck with her and she won’t change if you marry this guy. If you are serious about this guy now is the time to figure out what kind of boundaries he is a like to set with her- as this will have a direct impact on your future happiness if you stay around.

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It sounds like there’s a reason she doesn’t get to see the grandkids all that often…

I’d bring this up to your BF, outline how her comments hurt you, then avoid her going forward. She just sounds like bad energy

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Her other DIL’s are on to something…you should follow their lead.

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Check out @mindyourboundaries ! I’ve learned so much from her.

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Incredible, thank you for sharing!

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For context: she has probably never asked me a single question about myself or attempted to get to know me, if I ask her questions I get one word answers and she will only talk to her sons, this weekend she told me I was aging out of getting purposed to (I’m 27). With her DILs, it’s always comments about how they don’t bring the grandkids around enough, telling them they are bad parents, etc. she pretty much only ever complains and never has anything nice to say.

Sounds like she’s in a bitch cycle. People don’t bring the grandkids around because she’s a bitch, then she bitches because the grandkids are never around. She’s always going to be in your BFs life and sounds like she doesn’t want to share him with you. I recommend talking with the DILs and getting their take on how to handle her. See if you’re willing to take that path or not.

I wouldn’t talk to her DILs just yet. You’re not in the family yet. This should be a conversation with you and your BF. You also shouldn’t jump the gun here until your BF has indicated he’s close to proposing.

Just. Set. Boundaries.

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