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What’s FDD like at Bain, BCG, or McKinsey?
Bain & Company Is it truly easier to get in a smaller MBB office?
Have heard a lot for different opinions on these. The logic is that it’s easier because there is a lot of supply in cities like NY, Chicago and SF, but the counter argument is that the offices with less supply are also way smaller and have a lot less demand.
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For me, motherhood taught me the value of forgiving myself. For not being the right size, not saying the right thing, for being selfish with my time, for being patient and losing my cool and saying sorry-even to a toddler. I find more beauty in the flaws than I did. And I finally treat myself like I would treat my best friend, with gentleness and compassion. We’re all out here doing our best. And some days we don’t have our best to offer. That’s okay too. It’s been very freeing. I’ve never had mom guilt because I know I am doing my best. And that the time I need alone or away from my baby - even if it’s going to work - makes me a better mom. It’s not been easy but I know it’s right. For example: my kid ate mostly chips and watermelon yesterday and we still gave them ice cream for dessert. They were happy. They were cute. Today I’ll try to get them to eat a vegetable.
If you are good at all of the above, you’re doing more than most of us can even try. Just trying to survive day by day over here
I hear you, friend, and I should caveat, I’m rather bad at most of the above. I suppose the more pertinent question is, what would it be like to not care/feel guilty about it?
I totally didn’t mean that as defensive, apologies if it came off that way. I meant it more like you are already doing the most and to give yourself some credit.
If there was one thing on this list you could feasibly outsource and “not care” about, what would it be? If your mental health is taking a toll, maybe there is an opportunity to care less in some ways.
I am a mess and have no authority on this topic, but I hope I can eventually find a balance of priorities enough to also enjoy this time and be “present” to appreciate these moments as they fly by. At least that’s what my therapist tells me 🙃
I’ve long thought about “when it’ll be ok to not worry about my weight.” Like when I’m 80 can I eat ice cream and skip a workout and not feel gross the next day?
The older I get, the more I think the answer is no…
But I have found that not caring what the other mommieghs think of me is very liberating! I focus on the people I care about and the others can pound sand. I’ve also let go of the “good daughter/sister thing. Due to a scapegoat/hero dynamic I’m never gonna win that, so I just do what feels right to me and let the chips fall.
So, maybe look at your motives for each category and prioritize what’s really important to you?
LETS FIND OUT GET IN THE VAN LOSER WE’RE DOING THIS!!!!
Depends on your definition of good/bad. If you’re referring to the tongue and cheek “bad mom” that lets their kids eat chips and watch tv, I’m probably more bad than good. We also do Costco so no farm to table for us. But if you mean actually bad, then no- the consequences are not worth the moment of release.
Honestly, this all sounds like a humble brag to those of us drowning. Hard to feel sympathy.
Whoa cynical. It shouldn’t be hard to empathize or sympathize with someone who feels the pressure of external expectations, regardless of how they quantify those expectations. Everyone’s struggles look different.
This post read like a manifesto, you’re outdoing us all with your good writing CD!
I have spent so many years considering everyone else and thinking about the emotions of everyone around me that I don’t even know what my emotions are most of the time.
Do I not like this? Or am I channeling someone else knowing they won’t like it and thus I have to find a way to handle that.
It’s exhausting.
You are doing too much all at once. I spent a good ten years just volunteering and doing kid stuff.. scout leader, committees, boards, I felt like the local community graphic designer. Now, I paid my dues to advertising, volunteer, kids, and I can do what I want. There will be time in your life when you can do everything just in waves….because I can tell you really want to do it all. And yes, I have seen and done it all… farming included. Just in its own time! Maybe right now it is just advertising and perhaps family? Much love to you! Don’t get burnt out! Meditate! Enjoy the phases!!
Being good shouldn’t get in the way of being. Sounds like a lot of mental noise. Finding a way to get some inner peace feels like something to get “good” at ❤️
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I usually feel shitty at just about everything with temporary moments that I am killing it. I try not to be hard on myself but also try to weed out the things that aren’t helping like draining my newsfeed. There is no room for perfectionism in working mom-hood.