Does anyone feel super stuck in their careers. Like no direction. I’m 43 and feel I’ve accomplished nothing.

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I’ll see that number and raise you ten. Like the vast majority of us, I’m in survival mode, just trying to live a little longer through the next episode of the AI Hunger Games. Any direction that’s not taking you out the door, these days, is winning.

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I'm about your age and am back in school to finish my bachelor's

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Sending kind thoughts your way. I was in the same position for many years. I think ADHD (which wasn’t diagnosed at the time) contributed, because I wasn’t fully engaged at work. One of the issues for me was also that I felt my job defined me. I thought that if I couldn’t do well and keep up with my peers, then there was something intrinsically wrong with me—not just at work, but in everything.

It’s a really shitty situation to be in. I’m sure you’re dealing with a lot of thoughts similar to mine.

Therapy helped a great deal—especially cognitive behavioral therapy. I was able to learn when I was thinking of a situation in a distorted, unhelpful way, and then try to reframe it in a more accurate way. For example, recognizing when I was catastrophizing things and then trying to see the situation more objectively.

There’s no easy fix. Just realizing that you’re dealing with something is a huge step. Huge pat on the back for that! The next challenge is to reach out to others you can trust and speak honestly about what you’re feeling. You don’t to ask them to fix anything for you. Just let them know you need someone to listen to you with empathy and support.

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Yup - trying to figure out how to transition out of tech. I feel like I've just got a bunch of Frankestein projects to my name but nothing meaningful and have no idea what to do.

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