For those of y'all who had a small COVID wedding/eloped, and are now doing the big shebang- did any of you choose to have the traditional Bridal Shower?

Partner and I are choosing to have bridal parties but can't decide if a Bridal Shower/Couples Shower would be tacky. We've been married a year (almost 2 at time of vow renewal), and already own a home together and have been living together for years.

I hate the thought of paying for this if people are going to find it/us tacky

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I think it's usually thrown by someone other than the bride/groom. Nothing tacky about having one though

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Like if you chose to have one, it could even be a small lunch with the important women in your family and bridesmaids

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It's usually thrown by someone else. I chose not to have one personally. I did a small brunch with close friends/family as an alternative.

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It was couples and single men and women.

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It is tacky since you’re already married.

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I don't think it is tacky! The past few years have been so crazy. Your close friends and family (the ones you want to celebrate with) won't feel this way and just happy to spend time with you. If you want to do it - do it! You might have to do more of the planning (unless someone offers) but totally go for it!

Personally I feel this depends a lot on age/income. What’s your station in life? Are you asking people to bring gifts when you can comfortably afford to furnish your home yourselves? Traditionally, showers were to help a young woman get ready to move out of her parents’ home for the first time. Between weekend getaway bachelorettes and destination weddings, there’s little room or reason for the traditional wedding shower IMO.

I will add that I think a small gathering with the women in your family is always nice, if y’all are traditional.

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