Hello - I'm divorced 2 years. I have two boys who are 12 and 16. My ex has had a girlfriend for a while and they now live together, so of course the kids know her. They aren't particularly interested in her, but they accept her existence. On the other hand, I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months and have not introduced them yet... I just wanted to make sure he'd stay around before taking that step. We're feeling like now is the time, but my boys have no interest in meeting him... TBC..

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I'm really upset/ worried about this. I don't like that they don't know someone who I spend my extra time with, and he and I also hope for a future together. What can I do? This is really difficult.

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