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Could it be that the routine has gotten too routine and they’re wanting to switch things up? I sort of get this way sometimes with my SO (though im more extroverted and love trips as a source of energy renewal whereas SO prefers to stay in and chill). ~Especially~ with the madness of COVID, sometimes you just need to get out of the house and catch a change of pace/scenery. we also both work from home so it’s a bit much sometimes. The space is needed so I can come back renewed and as my best self for my SO.
Good perspective. Thank you.
When you said kids are in the mix, do you have regularly established date nights and weekends for just the two of you?
My husband has kids from his first marriage, and even when we had just started dating, I very clearly stated what I need to feel like a priority. For me, it was date nights 2x a month and a trip away 1-3 times a year, just the two of us.
Sometimes, when it’s especially busy with work or family obligations, I just gently pull him aside and tell him I’m going to need his time and undivided attention soon, and he will plan a date for us.
I’m a big fan of straightforward communication… it eliminates resentment and hurt feelings.
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Not a red flag but might need a reality check once in a while
How does one do that?!
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How old are you guys and how long have you been together?
Yes. Def out of honeymoon phase but SO also cancelled plans on me for the first time a few weeks ago so I'm super sensitive AND not going to just be here to work just around their schedule. We're both strong willed and think the other just likes things to be done their way but it's what makes us get each other too.
Is the flag here really them “ignoring” you, or is it that you’re feeling insecure that they might’ve had more fun traveling with friends than laying around the house with you?
Why don’t you want to take the trip with them? The one they proposed shortly after you said you wanted to spend time together. Seems like a perfect win-win.
Being a wet blanket on their personal interests is going to divide you and brew resentment, not bring you closer.
I am sensitive and felt hurt when they first told me about the next trip but totally see now how I am coming across as the selfish one. Damn. Fear of being walked on is a real thing and gets in my way. I needed this response so thank you. AND you are so right. I think about short term and they are long term thinkers. I wish I could see the longer term but I really like them and just love time together. I need to chill. Thanks again.
I have felt myself wanting to get out and “do things” recently - with or without my SO - I am attributing it to pandemic cabin fever. Could this be the case? It seems like maybe since they seem to want to get out, maybe friends were just easier to schedule with or someone dropped a plan in their lap?