Hey ladies- ever since I've started working at a more senior level and working with C Suite executives in my day to day role; and managing a small team- I've noticed that I don't relate to my friends anymore (and I feel like they don't relate to me). Has anyone been through this transition? Where did you meet people on more similar paths?

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You are not your job, and if your friends are real friends, it shouldn't matter what job you do. Yes, as you progress through your life and career, you may gather new or different friends, but the threads of your friendships should remain pretty constant.

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I agree with this and feel the same way. And while your job is your job and shouldn’t affect your friendships, it does, especially when they can’t relate or even try to empathize with what you’re going through.

I’ve realized there are a few true friends who they don’t care about what I do and we still just are goofy together and our friendship has never changed. Then there are some who don’t seem to like that I have a bigger job than them and I’ve just slowly started distancing myself from them. It hurts and really sucks but I can’t keep holding onto a friendship that doesn’t support me. So I gravitate towards the ones that do and stop wasting the effort on the ones that don’t.

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Are your friendships centered around work/career? I do have friends I can no longer relate to because we’re on a different paths, but I have other friends I share hobbies with and that’s our common ground. Just a thought but what connected you to your friends in the past? Maybe focus more on the commonalities even if career ambitions have diverged.

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Is it due to not having time to attend things or is it that your topics of interest have changed?

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I feel this. I'm not even nearly that high up, and I think I have 3/25 friends left that can relate.

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These don’t sound like friends to me.

What do you mean by don’t relate? How does it look?

I know this phase. Started when I got married, had kids, got my Master's, and had a better job. We just drifted. I can't do the whole late night, last-minute hang and stuff anymore. I'm too tired but I'm okay. I like to plan ahead.

I message them from time to time to check in. It helps that we are mostly mutual friends and have had a group chat for about a decade now. For more personal check ins, I message them on Christmas, New Year, Birthdays, and a few other times.

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