Am I tripping? Everyone loves calling my daughter (2 months) "lil chocolate drop" or "look at all that chocolate". I love my daughter's complexion, not only because it's mine, but because it's beautiful. However, I can't help but feeling like ppl "other" or make it weird by avoiding saying dark. Calling her dark is acceptable and appreciated. I know "chocolate" comes from a place of affection, but I just can't embrace it 💯.

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Awwww I love lil chocolate drops 😍 now I’m nervous I’ve offended a bunch of parents 🤔

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I call my 8 year old son my little chocolate drop because his skin and complexion are amazing. Assume positive intent and enjoy your beautiful blessing.

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What’s a step below tripping, because this might be that. You’re the parent, so of course you get to decide what you’re comfy with. Also feels like you might be projecting and adding more meaning to the situation. Instead of chocolate drop, what would you like them to say?

Saying this as an Auntie to many Black little ones: they’re all my little chocolate drops or chocolate chips, no matter their skin tone.

I agree, I imagine that it’s being said with affection, BUT if you don’t like it or would prefer them use different words to describe your baby girl, then tell them. Your closest friends may tell you you’re trippin, but any one who values you will try to make the shift.

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