Am I tripping? Everyone loves calling my daughter (2 months) "lil chocolate drop" or "look at all that chocolate". I love my daughter's complexion, not only because it's mine, but because it's beautiful. However, I can't help but feeling like ppl "other" or make it weird by avoiding saying dark. Calling her dark is acceptable and appreciated. I know "chocolate" comes from a place of affection, but I just can't embrace it 💯.

It's an exhausting time to be working in this industry, to say the least. How do you prevent taking your work home with you?

So I just moved states. I’m staying with a parent for a while in a pretty large house and my cat keeps hiding for hours on end (I think to snooze). Any thoughts? She’s spent time with me and I walked around with her while she explores. And she’s ventured solo. Seemed she’s warming up well. Except this again. I admit it’s giving me horrible anxiety that she won’t respond at all until I locate her because even I’m learning where things are and want her to be safe. This is the third time 😭

My SO told me that if I begin my answer to one more of her questions this week with "it depends", she is going to slap the shit out of me. Can't say I blame her, it is probably really annoying.

How does a person change their mindset to be more positive? I feel like I’m meant for my job, but blame all my life problems on it….having no energy, being single at the age of 30, etc. and it seems like a never ending loop. I look for new jobs, realize I have a good job then am ok for a bit then start it all over again. When I’m off of work I’m fine and realize I have it pretty good. Only real negative is I can’t vacation with my family in March due to my busy time.

AITA: My friend keeps asking me for financial advice. I set up a budget for her and have her concrete advice. And I field all of her investing questions. But still, she continues to be reckless with her money. She’s 42, single (no kids), and making $100k+ and is still living check to check.

I don’t want to waste my breathe on helping her since nothing seems to be getting through to her. AITA?

How do I figure out spending with my SO? Initially I was paying for 90% of stuff (no actual bills, just going out). I talked to her and said we need to be more even. She was never proactive. She kind of got offended but we ended on a good note to split things. It went well for a couple weeks but now it's back to normal. She never takes out her card and only venmos me if I send her the request. She lets Venmos sit for weeks before paying them. I still let a lot of things slide.

This is the only bowl I can think to post in, but I'm really feeling it today. Has anyone lost their best friend (i.e. through time/growing up) and feel like none of their current friends could live up to the fun/connection you used to have with your high school BFF? I feel like I put too much focus on that one friend and also my boyfriend and just never actually made time for anyone else. I fucked myself over.

My relationship just ended yesterday because he wanted to “focus on myself and figure things out.” My relationship before that ended (~2 years ago) because he wanted to focus on himself. I can’t help but feel like it’s because something is wrong with me. What am I doing wrong?

How do you and your partner (married or not married) split financials?

How do you know if you have good hygiene? my ex told me I don’t

This is my routine:
- I have curly hair, can only wash it once a week/put dry shampoo if needed
- I brush my teeth 2 times a day
- Wear deodorant / perfume every day (my way, and good girl) and shave off any hair (I did laser but still), as much as possible. Some days, I cannot keep up with shaving (especially if it won’t show)
- I wear pantyliners and change it once a day/ change panties once a day
- I shower my body every day

I’ve 90 min for ELA & 6 kids. I need to teach phonics, curriculum (has 0 phonics), & goals & they need freq. breaks. Admin’s making me use said curric. Any ideas?? Small groups and rotate? TIA!

Any moms on here that absolutely love their company and feel 100% supported?

Why do we always tell people “Be the best version of yourself before starting a relationship?”
I feel this is wrong…first, if you’re someone who constantly wants to be better, this doesn’t work. Also, what happens when you’re going through things and you’re not the best version? What happens is…the going gets tough and then one person leaves the other.

Any book recommendations for grieving the death of an estranged parent?

My baby slaps the boob while nursing the same way I used to slap the bag in uni

My SO adds very little to our relationship. She has a dead end job. I cook. I work. I oversee finances. I plan trips. She doesn’t have a voice in the relationship. I’ve asked her to give her perspective but she always defaults to mine bc she thinks I’m smarter/worldly. She feels intimated by me and my social circle. Lately, I’ve found myself thinking for her. Anticipating her wants and needs and then adjusting my behavior to meet them. Which she appreciates but it’s frustrating 29M 27F

GF is 32 and I’m 28. She wants kids within 2 years, understandably. I never envisioned having kids that early (more like late 30s), but I like her a lot. Anyone else gone through something similar?

Question: Girl friends parents finally came over for a ristha. Everything went great or so I thought but now she wants to time to think about moving forward. The pain point she brought up is that we are in different states and she is feeling pressed. Although in that time she has started communicating less and I literally had to beg her to get on face time. My gut says she wants to end it but unsure. Any advice ? It's been 2 weeks since this event

I do NOT want children. And yet, recently, I’m desperate to spend time with my niece and nephew. I’m panicking that this is the beginning of me changing my mind.

So my fiancé and I are having a microwedding in Rocky Mountain National Park next year, and we’re working with an elopement planner.
She sent over a sample ceremony (intro, sweet poems + passages to be read, and example vows), and we read through it last night. I was reading it out loud while my fiancé made dinner, and it just hit me that this is really happening. I’m just really happy that I found someone who is willing to take a vow to spend his life with me and I’m so excited for that day :)

Are we all small training sets waiting to experience and learn it all and eventually be part of the master AI aka God?

Does Chicago have a secret sex society ?

I want to know how UBS (UK) reach out to you for interview purposes I mean through a phone call or over the email.

After hike letter, how many are preparing for putting the paper down?? 😃😃

What to do if someone you know is getting pushed out of your agency? (Continued in the comments)

Do Leidos, SAIC, and other mostly-fed consulting businesses pay bonuses to all levels? If so, what does a typical bonus target look like? Booz Allen does not pay bonuses until you get to the Senior Associate level (1 step below Director) and I think that impacts employee performance and work ethic pretty dramatically. I’m wondering if not paying bonuses is common to federal contracting because of how the contracts or priced, or if this is something unique to Booz Allen.

New joiner in this bowl, concept kya hai? Right swipe ka option nahi dikh rha 😂

What should be the avg salary of an IC4 in Oracle? YOE: 8 Position: Principle Software Engineer

Hi Fishes,

Currently I am working in India and I am looking for on-site opportunities in companies who can provide work permit in UK. I have updated the same in Naukri. Is there anywhere else I can apply apart from naukri and LinkedIn where can I expect any response? I have 9+ years in experience and working as cloud consultant.

Hi everyone,
What should be the package of 3 years full stack developer. Technology: java, reactjs, vue with TS, nodejs, graphql.

Thanks

Has anyone recently off boarded? I’m about to put my two weeks (three weeks since I’m taking a week off) and would love to hear how the experience was. Leaving for FANG so not a competitor

Do you guys wear winter jackets over your suit coat? It feels super uncomfortable, even the nice Calven Clien type coats

I have 5 YOE in Analytics... always thought I wanted to be a DS, but every job (even the junior ones) required experience in ML development. Though I am part of the ML project, I'm not the person develop the model. And I have a hard time when the interviewer ask about how I develop the model and what hyperparameters I tuned. I know the thought process and stuff but 'I' wasn't the one who did that part in the project. How to convince them that I could do the job without taking credit of others.

MLS or CLS what the catch to travel? What are your pros and cons ?! Who do you travel thru?

I am looking for a permanent WFH for project management related senior roles, let me know if you have one

What is element require mitigation in a background check?

Ladies, any suggestions our 8th anniversary gift for the wife? We are in our early 30s. I am running out of ideas over the year 😔.

Talk to me about discipline. What age did you really start laying down the law? Im patiently waiting out the terrible twos but at some point will need to reign it in if this continues...

Expecting dad. Nice to be on here.

My 5 year old son demanded a haircut because he doesnt like his curly hair. Its too curly. He wants hair thats like Fletcher's. (Fletcher is his white friend from day care). My son and his sister are the only blacks at the day care. I dont know how to broach the subject with him.

Any of the sisters deal with gestational diabetes but already had a restrictive diet pre and during pregnancy?
Doctor says I have it, but I honestly don’t believe them. I don’t eat cane sugar (not even in sauces), gluten, dairy, or soy. So not surprised I couldn’t process their drink-I don’t consume stuff like that regularly. I walk a mile or do HIIT training 5x/ week. The condition doesn’t run in my family (and my mom has 4 sisters w/kids-good sample size) (cont’d in comments)

Don’t judge me, I’m just struggling this year.

Mother’s Day Gift ideas?

Hi Parents, need recommendation for taking care of kids hair. My kids are mixed race and their hair gets easily tangled to the point where we spend an hour to untangle the mess. Hair is also dry and the conditioner and or oil doesn’t seem to help. What are some of your go to products and routine? TIA

Thank y’all for starting this bowl! Newly expecting mama here 🤰🏾I’ll be 11 weeks tomorrow! My husband and I are praying that I give birth to healthy 🤴🏾 or 👸🏾. I look forward to learning from this group!

How much per week/month do you spend on daycare?

How are you all managing COVID anxiety for the little ones?

My wife and I are fully vaxxed now and we know kids seem to not be impacted much by it, but it still feels irresponsible to go back to “normal” if it means putting them at risk.

Anyone have tips on culturally relevant (read Black) parent podcasts or parent preparation programs?

I’m looking for something similar to New Mom Boss but for us

Sooo my nanny fell asleep holding the baby. My husband and I work from home. So, he walked in, saw them and put the baby in the crib.
Ask: Any advice on how to address this with the nanny? Also, it it a fire able offense?

Context: Nanny started full time on 1/24; baby is not quite 5 months old; we are WFH and have cameras installed that are visible (she should know they exist); first time having a nanny

Father of two princesses. 2 years and 4 months.

Thinking of getting a Black Baby Alive doll for my daughter. Preferably one that talks and moves, but there seems to be so many. Any suggestions?

Seeing local parents reacting to the public school lottery results in DC, got me super nervous about when it’s my kids turn.

I hate the idea of having so little control.

Do any parents have a Lovevery discount code? Also, are there other similar services I should look it? Our LO is due in 3 weeks. So, I want to get him off to a good start.

Potential unintended consequences of my parenting decisions is the most stressful thing ever.

The “right” approach can feel so clear one moment, then feel like a huge mistake the next.