Hi! My wedding is in august and people have been contributing to our honeymoon fund on our registry. Do I need to send them a thank you card now? Or can I wait to send after the wedding? Not sure what proper etiquette is…

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It’s customary to wait until after the wedding and even until after you get back from the honeymoon. Have fun wherever you’re going!

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I'm waiting as our thank you cards will use our photos from the wedding.

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I strongly disagree with waiting. Thank you cards should be promptly sent.

I try to send within 2-3 days of receiving a wedding gift. I am sending another thank you (using our picture once they come in) to guests that attended the wedding, thanking them for their attendance and thanking them again for their gift.

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There is nothing you can say to change my mind about promptly sending thank you cards, and I am not sure why you are feeling personally attacked because I do not agree with waiting.

I did not call your opinion flat out rude. I said it was flat out rude to cash a check without first sending a thank you. I stand by that.

And no, this is not 1960, but many of the people sending gifts are from that generation and they value a thank you card. I have been told this on many occasions. You can believe it, or not.

Yes, I was raised to send thank you cards, from a very young age. It was a fairly common practice growing up to send thank you cards for everything and I am grateful for this.

I understand wedding planning is very time consuming, I got married last month. Writing them as they come in is fairly manageable.

You may feel that me sending 2 thank you cards is overkill, but I simply did not want to wait 2 months until after I received a gift, and I wanted to also use a wedding photo. So this is my solution.

Again, OP asked for opinions, and this is mine.

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Mine is also in August, I think it’s okay to wait until after!

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Customary to send a thank you promptly upon receipt. I think this is polite and doesn’t leave the gifter wondering if you received it or not.

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Thanks everyone!! Saw a TikTok that you should send it out two weeks after you receive a gift if it’s before your wedding and got worried!

They are right!! There are a lot of episodes on this on Awesome Etiquette and in the Emily Post books (even the updated ones!)

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This is beside the point, but how have people received your registry link? Though your invitations?

If the wedding website was on the invite then they likely found the registry through the website.

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