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Quietly, but with distinction, stand up, unzip your pants, take them down, and just stand there until you are given the attention you deserve.

But seriously, I recommend either picking a topic and taking a contrarian (but very well reasoned) position, and/or by repeatedly asking people to repeat themselves in unique/different ways.

It’s psychological warfare. By being a logical contrarian you are displaying to people that you a)don’t mind going against the group and b) you usually have good reasons for saying what you say. People will naturally pause and listen to what you have to say after that.

Also, by asking people to repeat themselves, they will subconsciously see you as a power figure (you’re publicly asking them to say something again, and therefore they will believe you are on their team) and you can also create the impression they aren’t being clear

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