How does it feel to not love someone anymore?

So my GF went to the gynecologist yesterday and they told her she was infertile, there go my chances of having one more baby. I also don't want to leave her because of that I believe that would be a dick move of me. What should I do?

I felt like a walking zombie during thanksgiving, barely eating and barely talking. My family is small and I told them ahead of time my relationship ended. I focused on my niece and nephews, cried when I wanted to and slept from 8pm-noon for the last 5 days. Showered once or twice. That’s the best I could do and that’s OK right now. I’m back in my apartment, just trying to take it one day at a time, and not re read his texts too much. My birthday is Thursday 🙄

I love my friends in tech but I hate how much money they make. And I don’t think I should necessarily make more, I think they should make less. Thoughts?

I’ve had to step away from social media for my own mental sanity as I have a major issue with comparing myself to peers when it comes to life stages. (Single female, 34, never married, no male prospects, dog mom.) As a result, I feel like I’m doing a disservice to myself professionally as social media is a HUGE communication channel. Any advice on staying away or including it in my life in healthy ways?

Do you guys ever feel like you're 'too Asian' in the workplace but 'not Asian enough' when it comes to family/friends? My morals are rooted in Asian traditions, but can't speak my native language well

Teaching Autistic Support via Zoom is so difficult. The behaviors are way worse and there is next to nothing I can do to help my students parents.

Best self-care tips for dealing with loneliness/sadness this time of year? This is my first Christmas without my mom and it just feels like nothing will ever be the same again 😭. If you’ve lost a parent can you give me advice on getting through the holidays? Being a parentalish figure to my students is both healing and heartbreaking.

2 friends from college just stayed up with me for 4 hours to make last minute edits to my horrid Wharton essays. Admit or ding I’m grateful to have friends like this in my life.

Anyone here adopt a puppy during the infertility struggle? Husband and I considering it to have something positive throughout this situation and thinking the extra companionship would be helpful. I work from home. Husband has had many family dogs and lots of experience with it, I’ve had a family cat before. But not sure if it’s actually a good idea - wondering if it would truly help make us feel better and keep our minds off of the struggles or if it would just add extra stress. Thoughts?

Has anyone dealt with coming to terms with an emotionally abusive relationship? I struggle to admit this (because more drastic examples come to mind), but my therapist mentioned that things like yelling/throwing things/blocking me from leaving the room are also abusive traits my ex demonstrated. It makes me feel alienated from myself — like “how could I have allowed myself to be treated like that?”. Also feeling ashamed to tell anyone

Anyone else extreme ? Love the fit life and sometimes will do 2 a days and be ok with eating one meal, but other times will spend the day barely moving and eating on my sofa. Can’t escape fatty life

At my uncles wedding in Madrid I remember lying down on the grass in the courtyard after their first dance and crying, my Dad came and saw me, laid down in his suit beside me and asked what was wrong.

“I know my boyfriend wouldn’t dance with me like that at our wedding”

And we just lay there as I cried, and then got up. Had a drink.

Said boyfriend left years ago, and now I have a wonderful man who just asked me what type of dance lessons I want for our wedding next year.

Don’t give up.

Need advice and help.

I have realized I grew up in a household where my dad did not treat my mom as an equal. He belittles her, is rude and convinced his way is the only way.

It is painful to say, but some of this shows up in me and in my relationship. I am starting to catch myself, and it to me seems to be more of a reaction than anythjng that is ever intentional.

Wondering if anyone has dealt with something similar, and any success in making changes besides therapy. Cont. in comments

Any books that you found very helpful to read as expecting parents? We’re just nine weeks along, but would love to start preparing however we can!

Getting ready to quit and I’m scared as heck!! But I feel like it’s now or never to follow my dream of taking a gap year to backpack the world!! Dealt with a lot of pushback and concern but this is it

My family/friends ask me for store discounts all the time. It's really uncomfortable to say no, but I have to. Any tips on how to handle these conversations?

I just got my client divorced from a truly horrible person who abused her and her children and she got everything she wanted and the kids are doing great and only one hasn't been successfully discharged from therapy and I'm just so proud of her and feel so lucky that I got to do a little to help her along the way

Does anyone feel bad seeing friends when you’re job hunting? Just feel like I don’t deserve a dinner out and will feel bad comparing myself since they are all doing fine.

Fish I need some help and advice. I fell off the wagon last weekend (sober two years and change with alc) and I cheated on my SO of three years. We live together and she has been by my side through

Hey guys,
Can you please help me with interview process for "AthenaHealth".
I am a 3.5 YOE Java Full stack professional
Skilled in Java, Spring boot and Microservices.

Hi Fishes ,

I am an FE with 7.1 yrs of exp looking for a change. So far I've seen the packages are boxed at 30lpa at my exp and Angular framework, I Have some exposure to AWS devOps as well. Can anyone guide if there is something missing in my profile or if I am not getting the right opportunity (excluding MANG from this discussion)

I’m in my 3rd year out of college. My salary is 85k with a bonus of 30k (35%), which brings my total comp just slightly below market. How can I ask for more base and less bonus?

Hi boys & girls!

Joined a big firm (Big4) not long a go and starting to feel like I got a good grip on my current work.

I've always been very technical, so I think that the only thing I am missing now is making sales. (I really wanna make partner)

Can any seasoned lawyer share tips and materials (i.e. books) which can help?

Would it be a good idea to join a Social Club where potential clients spend time? (gym/tennis/paddel/events)

Any advice welcome!

Hey Fishes,
I have completed "My Purpose" learning badge and to convert it to bronze I have submitted attested evidence as required but without screenshot of deliverables as I implemented learning into my life. It got rejected from BAT team for missing screenshots.
Next, I have submitted with some screenshots. It again got rejected saying inappropriate screenshots.
Can you please give some guidance to complete this badge. TIA.

Do you gotta work on last working week ay ey gds? Just wondering.

Partners - Why can't we have 2 specializations for SMs, 1st Sales SM, 2nd SME SM. As M3 i feel like i have strong content and delivery knowledge. (FSO Advisory NY)

Which is better career path among these two ?
1. Java And it's advanced technologies (Backend)
2. Java and Angular (Full stack)

Does FSO (Financial Services Office) have the same busy season as every other industry? Is it easier or harder?

Got an offer from EY FSO ITS. Heard it would be tough, anyone works in that group can give any advice ? Thanks!

Hi,

I have a total experience of 5 years in java and AWS. My qualifications are BTech in computer science from symbiosis.

My current CTC is around 14.5 LPA. Want to know what's the norm going around rn

Anyone got a six figure base as an AE? Hunting around for companies with 6-fig base and similar commission. Seems to be mostly field / enterprise pay.

What do you do to fight burnout? Got a raise yesterday and will get another in September, for dealing with a lot of stuff, but I can't shake the burnout.

Interviewing for a BDR position at Salesforce. Is there wiggle room to negotiate the compensation ? If so what do you recommend ?

hi guys! i wanted to ask for advice if anyone can help. currently i’m a scientist at a CRO and i’m doing work that is at least a title or two above mine. feels like im overworked and underpaid. i keep getting rejected to positions i feel like i can fill due to my years of experience. i technically only have been working since may 2020. but i have learned so much so quickly, im already doing method development/discovery work. should i settle for a job title below my current in pharma?

I am appearing for an interview next week for .Net profile. What should I expect in the interview Resume based questions or DS and Algo related questions?

Fill in the blank: When guys want to impress a girl, they say “I was to show my ______ to you”

@ PE folks, do you think it’s weird if a new member of your Big Law team of lawyers sends you a LinkedIn request as soon as she starts working with you? Is it less weird if I wait?

(The confession is that I eventually want to go in-house at this PE firm, so I want them to like me 😅)

When I have more salsa then I do chips, I always pour the crumbs in and eat it up Ethiopian food style

I have a jewelry addiction. And I’m dying to buy jewelry again now. 🥺

Took PM robitussin instead of DM 🤦 mad tired right now..😴

I was wondering if anybody on here has warned their replacement to basically run and not take the job?? I’m leaving my job next Friday due to a toxic boss that was hired three years ago. I have a week and a half to train my replacement who I really happen to like and I really feel like I need to warn her not to put down roots. I know I shouldn’t even be concerning myself with this, but I’m feeling a lot of guilt not telling her the real reason I’m leaving-has anyone done this?

Why is drinking and getting drunk the “fun” traits but staying home to chill is “boring”? I must be in the wrong era 🥺

Best shows you are binging or have binged? I just finished a cruel summer 🤩

Certainly had a breakdown today, cried, canceled plans for tonight and tomorrow, ate some soup feel so much better .
I’ll be honest older I get more I’d be fine just staying in my apartment 24/7 lol

What’s the most dangerous/ reckless thing you’ve done for some ‘action’? Drop your best story 🍿

What are your biggest red flags when dating someone new?

Woman approaching 40, dated once, LTR once and heartbroken by 32 as I found the man in LTR was cheating on me. Shut my heart completely to ensure never give anyone the power to hurt me. Today I wake up and see years have passed. I have checked off many bucketlist items being single for these years including solo euro trip. But now I feel I can’t go on forever. I just wish I had someone to plant a good morning kiss, like simple things in life. Hard to share these feelings, hence confessing

Book recommendations, fishies? Looking for something light, but intellectually engaging—a satire, maybe? Or anything really engrossing! Please help ya chiefy, thank youuuu🤗😘

I cut my own hair

Pic thread! Pic thread!! Pic thread damn it!!! Come on everyone!!!!!

Ladies, sometimes we like our hair pulled a little too

I’ve never worked at a firm, only public interest and have no idea how to do billable hours.

My ex keeps me on her private Snapchat story, but it’s almost all of the content revolves around her current boyfriend (mostly lovey dovey, sometimes complaining about him) What does it mean?

I've been almost 3 years in my previous company and never have I ever tasted any raise from them. I got transferred to different accounts and LOB it was so exhausting and finally when I decided to leave and send my resignation my Supervisor be like "you know you should be thankful of your job" To be honest the job was very stressful and supervisor at some point is somehow toxic but thankful I get to take my leave.