How long until your sex life got back on track after baby? We are 9mos pp & husband is actually pretty understanding but I’m still so tired &so underwater at work to get back to where we were pre baby

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It will never be the way it was. You need to find a new normal that makes both of you happy. In the interim, as lame and unsexy as this sounds, schedule some time once a week

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I hate to say it, but you kind of need to get on the bike to remember how good it feels to ride ? (Weird analogy?) at 14 months not much is going to shift that drastically to catalyze you getting back in the bed but you. Don’t worry once you start you’ll remember why you liked it in the first place :)

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5 years and counting....

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Manager 1: Right behind you, I think. Between working, parenting and the actual kid, I barely have the energy to plan even a netflix and chill.

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I needed to hear all this too. I'm pretty much dead from the waste down.

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*waist

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14 months and it’s non existent. Trying to tell myself it’s a season and it’s ok.

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3 months post partum and it still feels a bit weird to me. The best way I found to get the spark back was going back to what got my pulse racing prior to having a baby - sexy lingerie, erotic literature etc. I found you really need to put in the effort to get the ‘sexy’ mindset back

Could be hormones especially if you are BFing. Try to schedule your time together. Not romantic but it gets easier

4months pp and we still haven’t gotten on the bike. The husband wanted to once and I joked my way out. Just not sure how to, if I’d enjoy it or if it’ll be awkward

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