I believe my job coupled with dating apps has killed my ability to love/establish a relationship beyond just sexual. Been with 20+ women over the past 6 months and can't connect. Serious issue imo...

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Frankly, it sounds like either your standards for women are unrealistic or you just need to spend more time learning about them. Dismissing someone as "uninteresting" after only a couple hours of conversation is very premature in my book

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Here's a thought. Don't sleep with someone if you're not interested by them. Then maybe it'll force you to find things in common with people and connect on a human level instead of just getting a quick release. Think of it as rehab.

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@op date older

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Humble brag ?

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Some I talk to continuously and others are just one night stands. It's nice to get the sexual release but I find myself thinking about it and sad once or twice a month because I'd like someone I could open up with, know I'm coming home to, and sleeping with several new women over and over again is literally like replaying a song... say the same shit, pull the same move. It's really hard to find someone I'm attracted to, has a good career, and interests me.

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Maybe you have a sex addiction

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I've tried dating older and younger (27 y/o here) but I'm in the same boat OP...good to know I'm not alone 🙃

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Op, how are you bedding all these women? What are your moves?

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@c1 I guess that's true regarding career but I just believe a decent career out of college will shape a person. An intelligent person working a printing press doesn't develop, build skills etc...
I've also noticed I'm turning into one of those with great text game and losing my in person character.

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And get off your phone!!! When you are home on the weekends, do stuff with real people. You need to strengthen all your relationship skills.

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C1, don't shame OP for being attracted to an ambitious person who has a career. Ambitious women like myself have enough trouble finding guys who interest us without jerks like you who think that men should just find dolts of women who want to sit at home.

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OP my 2 cents. Don't stop using the app. That's the only way we get to meet people given our travel and work schedules. As someone who's been through this- I went out with about 18-20 dates in about 6-7months. Though I wasn't looking for serious relationship initially, it got boring and monotonous real quick. No real intelligent conversations. If they were smart they were horrible in bed. And yes I was very picky. Some were smart, had good career and hot but then they ditched me. I started going out with only folks who had a good job/education background- to narrow down my sample size. And eventually met my SO. We went out on first date. Didn't sleep together until 5/6th date. We would meet, talk, do activities together. She's really smart, has a great career and I find her amazingly beautiful. We connected as people. TLDR: use apps to find people you can connect on an intellectual level, take time to know the person. And then bring sex in to the picture. You'll find love, or love will find you! Godspeed

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Also, I'm not sure why having a good career is that important. A partner doesn't need to pulling in tons of dough to be a caring, thoughtful, and intelligent person

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Are you perhaps under the age of 25?

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Try doing something for them - giving is the best way to feel happy

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& I meant do something more than doing down on them 🙄

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RT: Date older and don't fuck people who don't interest you intellectually.

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What K2 said.

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Actually one of the most honest posts I've seen...OP, Im with on this...and to pile on, I don't think I've had an interesting conversation with a girl in a long time.

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Checking in as a 🙋🏻‍♂️ interested in driven and passionate females!

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