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Is it HIS goal to develop as a leader and move into a position of leadership? Is he interested in growing in this way? Have you discussed this with him to brainstorm ways to help him develop?
For some people, just calling them out in meetings and putting them on the spot can further erode their confidence. Make sure you know how he feels about it beforehand.
Yes, I am that way. In my case it is a cultural inflection point. For me, being told that I’m good and that my leader has my back…. And shelter.. makes a big difference. Thanks for caring!!
Just put him on the spot and ask for his opinions during meetings for some work which he did. He will eventually gain confidence when others appreciate his input during such instances.
Don’t put him on the spot. Instead you could help him prep for a meeting and let him know you will call on him for that topic/item. That gives him a chance to prepare/practice with you before getting in front of an audience.
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Here’s what I would do:
a) Talk to the employee about why they hesitate and I speak up. This could be a cultural effect you’re witnessing. Within some black and Asian cultures you’re taught to stay in the background and not outshine others. Or it could be a bad incident in their history where speaking up negatively impacted them.
b) (and someone called this out earlier) see if they even want to move into leadership.
c) (this one) set the team member up for success. Have a conversation with them, and let them know that you would like to see them step up and take a more prominent role in some of the meetings. Let them know that you will work with them, and whenever you’re having a meeting, have a pre-meeting with this employee, let them know what the topic is going to be, and let them know some of the things that you would be looking for their input on. This gives them time to Mentally Prepare for the topic in the questions, and allows them a chance to do any research if they need it. But most importantly, they won’t be taken off guard and they won’t feel attacked because this is the plan that you and The Team member worked out together.
A lot of really good points, I would have a 1:1 with them and talk about their goals moving forward. If they are even interested in a leadership position and if not could at least have some goals of confidence building for whatever they want to do in the future. Communication is always the key to be on the same page.
Tactical suggestion. Give the person an opportunity to facilitate a meeting. Give the person a structured agenda and script that provides some guardrails.
That will help the person get out of their shell.
I've run into these type of situations a lot as I tend to coach folks from technical backgrounds that want to lead groups or work streams.
The agenda/script trick works for me often.
But you need to be be explicit at least the first time.
Agree with others. I would tell him this very directly - that you see so much potential and this is holding him back, but you know he can do it.
Give him opportunities to stretch himself, encourage him and then tell him how he did afterwards. I have a report like this and consistently telling her how I see her performance has helped (she is a very anxious perfectionist so doesn’t see how well she does)
I am the same way. My manager always tells me that he will always have my back and that I was his number 1 pick. But when it comes to meetings and whatnot, I have a massive fear of standing in front of people and talking. Any ideas for me as well are greatly appreciated.
Is there a cultural component involved? Could be an innate nature to defer to the senior folks in the room.
A suggestion - have a debrief shortly after meetings. Get their thoughts on it. Validate that they were on the right track and that speaking up during the meeting would have added tremendous value.
Do you have Slack or Messaging during the meeting? If they can send you their thoughts, you could give them a boost during the meeting like “go for it” and support them as they stated their case.
As a leader you want to take these "gems" and to the next level, have you had a private sit down with them yet? Find out if they really want to take the next step, if so than put a small training plan together for them. Can you teach them 1 small thing that you do and have them start by taking that over? Then when you feel they got it move on to the next thing, take it little by little and watch them grow. You have the tools they need but they need to want to use them. Good luck