I have no idea how to handle this situation. So a woman comes to me and says that she's been misgendered by staff and wants to bring in her lawyer or go public. However she has never expressed to us, for months of employment now, that her pronouns are she/her and I guess she just hasn't been referred to by a third person pronoun by any management/HR people yet. I really have no idea what to do about the threat or what is fair. HELP!

My firm’s holiday party is on a weekday after work. I can just wear what I’d normally wear to work for that day, right?

I just found out a new colleague was brought on at 20% higher salary than my current salary. (Have been w/ firm 1.5 years) She doesn’t have a 4-year degree (working on it). How do I bring this inequity up and ask to be compensated equally? I have years more experience and My work is more complex - she is basically a receptionist. Any suggestions would be helpful!

Is it advisable to hand in your notice prior to background checks being completed? If not surely when they approach my current employer they’ll know, or are they discreet?

So embarrassed. I literally had one job to do today which was to schedule a client and give and take her paperwork when she came in. Totally called her by the wrong name today AND gave her the wrong paperwork. She was really nice about it but I feel like my boss was disappointed and I'm disappointed in myself. I don't want her to think I won't be able to keep clients straight when I start doing supervised sessions.

The relationship with my copy partner isn’t working as I expected. This person waters down every single idea we have. Have you experienced that before? If so, how would you manage the situation?

I've worked with the client for over 7 months now and he still calls me by my dad's name
What do I do 😭😂

Having a hard time dealing with how incompetent and lazy my business director is. Any tips?

I am working for a client in infosys and the project is in initial stage and the go live is somewhere in January.

Now the thing is this project has lot of toxic people from client team and they play blame games on daily basis.

I am working as a team lead here and want to get deallocated from this project.

Please help me with right approach and save my soul.

My boss (atty) is so disorganized! I’ve been with him 6 months and he’s having a hard time delegating, sharing info and managing deadlines. I’ve organized the caseload to manage the deadlines. He says he wants me to help with discovery but when I offer to start on one, he says he needs to do it. (Since he might have to present as evidence) When I give him deadlines and ask for the docs he says he’ll get to it. It’s a small 1 man firm, and I’m the first assistant besides his wife. Any advice?

Do you guys give your boss's New Years' gifts? I'm thinking of doing one since I didn't give a holiday gift but thought it maybe weird

Name the most ridiculous micro-managing by partners that you experience.

I’ll go first: MP told me that on initial emails, I am always to start with “Hello [name],” but after the initial email, I am not to address her by name again in the same thread. Initial greeting can only be “Hello [name] ” because just first name is too brisk and a “Hi [name]” is too informal. Had a 5 minute, in depth conversation as to why she prefers it this way…

What level of watch is acceptable to wear to work? Not sure if office vs client site also impacts

Can I give notice by email? Or is it truly preferred to call the partners directly? What if they don’t pick up?

Good places for buying business casual clothing (men's)?

What are some essential travel items to request for Christmas/Birthday from family? Also, any recommendations on a good, sturdy, cute briefcase for women?

Tips for managing difficult employees? It's my first time having direct reports and they challenge EVERYTHING. How do I motivate them and get them working with me instead of against me?

Did first set of redlines for a partner. Have ten years experience doing what this partner does but I am new to working with him. Said I did about a 7 out of 10 on that job. Not sure how to feel about that. What say you all? :) Keep in mind I asked for a 1 to 10 because I cannot talk to him about it for a week or so.

Tips on giving notice over the phone? I’m required to be in the office 5 days a week but the two partners I work for never come on Fridays or Monday mornings

How do you address someone who seems condescending? We’ve never met in person, and they’re slightly more senior, on a parallel team. (Not at TBWA)

My hands are shaking!! I just got off a call with my toxic manager who is clearly not happy I am being poached for another division. I tried to hold firm as he attempted to 20 question me, who was it, who wants me, what division, how did they find out about me? And of course the gaslighting of “why didn’t you come to me I could have helped or made introductions”. Clearly everything is about him. How have you handled such situations? What could I have done better with my abusive manager?

What is the best way to handle group financial consolidation in a multinational company?

Any recommendation for best brokers / banks for jumbo mortgage rates? NY metro area. Was quoted ~5.6% last week from Guaranteed Rate, but not sure if they’re brokering or lending themselves. If the former, I’d think I could find better rate going direct to lender.

The deadline for a research I’ve been postponing for months is today. I know I’ll send a bad work. Please feel for me

Anyone with base location Chennai, roaming in blr or hyd offices for time being ?

Hi! I was wondering if anyone here works at @Patreon (doesn’t seem like I can tag it so maybe not)? Wanted to chat about what it’s like to work there, etc. PS: this post also doubles as a plea for likes so I can DM (please) Thanks in advance!

Think they'll mind me taking PTO this week?

Anyone did a H1B transfer recently using premium processing ? Trying to understand timelines

What are the major differences between being a tax associate at a firm vs big four? Currently a state tax court clerk deciding what to apply to for next year.

Any ZSer who has taken HPV vaccine?

How do people afford to buy $1M houses in Chicago? Surely not everyone buying them is rich (which is somewhat of a subjective term). My wife and I are 30 and have a combined income of almost $300k and trying to buy something that expensive seems asinine yet people do it. Am I missing something?

How do I compare two sheets to make sure they are identical?

I know that some other associates at my level are approximately 30% behind other associates in hours on a month to month basis. Yet all of these associates say they are “at capacity”, and myself and another associate still end up being assigned work instead of them. How do we handle this? For reference, all associates are around the firms minimum requirement, it’s just that a few of us are 30+% over and it is leading to burnout.

Hello. Quick question about formatting. I have an excel sheet with bunch of negative numbers, but some are percentage values and some are dollar values. Is there a way to make all of them have a parenthesis for being negative while keeping them still percentage and dollar value separately or do I have to target them separately?

4th year Trust & Estate attorney at boutique firm in LA serving ultra high net worth clients. Trying to determine whether my compensation is fair. Any others in similar positions willing to share their salary/bonus information? Thanks!

Hey Google 🐠, need some feedback on my offer (level + TC). Thanks!

180K Base / 15% Bonus / 180K Equity / 20K sign on
L5 Senior Finance Analyst
5.5 YOE

DRS data: How many of you feel you are using your tech skills? Are you on C1 or C2 engagements? I'm on a staff-aug about to roll off & nervous the grass might not be greener & I'll be stuck in excel

What is the notice period if left in probation period?

Other than me being sick of my job and wanting more money, what are some other good reasons I can tell a recruiter why I'm looking for a lateral position change?

What are some examples where you feel included at your organization?

I used a tool at my last company that worked tremendously well in helping me resolve conflict with a co-worker and I would love to bring it into my new company - its an Ombuds platform.

Any suggestions on how to make this happen? Has anyone done this before - brought in a tool to your new company that you've used before?

I find myself in workshops and meetings, groups of 15-20 people, and I’m always the only woman. In my entire department, there are no other women. I’m getting to the point where I’m feeling defeated and burnt out. I’ve been working in male-dominated environments my entire career (over 10 years) and I’m losing motivation. Any tips or words of advice to get out of my mental rut?

Hi - I am a career pivot from higher education into tech and have final round interviews for a DEI Coordinator role (which I'm super excited for). I am meeting with three people that I would be partnering with for the job and it was shared with me that these interviews will mainly be behavioral as well as questions on my technical skills. Does anyone have any resources to help me prepare for this? Anything is greatly appreciated!

Question for everyone; what are some of the better job boards for underrepresented groups in tech? Non-traditional job boards that promote inclusivity and diversity hiring?

I'm in desperate need of tips to get genuine buy in from our predominantly white, male senior leadership to create a more inclusive environment. As is often the case, middle management and below is very diverse and then at Director+ it gets much more homogeneous. So far any real initiatives get shot down in favor of performative actions to post on SM. Is this just how it is, or can we try something different?

Does anyone have experience with starting a Business/Employee Resource Group? I would really like to start one for Middle Eastern and North Africans as my company does not have one. There are many discussions that could benefit others and opportunities for intersectionality here. TIA!

In honor of National Voter Registration Day, The New Yorker released the transcript of a previously unpublished interview with James Baldwin, who gave a first-hand account of "Freedom Day 1963," a Black voter-registration drive in Selma, Alabama. Baldwin's descriptions from that day are so vivid and detailed that you can feel the fear and anger of the event. If you have a couple of minutes, I highly recommend you read it.

I recently moved to Toronto from New Jersey. I’ve been applying with little success. I have a background in healthcare, non-profit, and public health. Any advice on what company I should apply to?

Hey! I created a bowl for DEIB practitioners and employers/hiring managers who need contractors or candidates .

I am frustrated as a Gay Woman who has given her all for 30+ years grinding to be the best. I have been in closet, out of closet, in-between and am tired of it. I want to be VALUED as a human being. I have gone from Rock Star to problem when people "found out". I have trained and promoted hundreds of people and been passed over for promotions because of not being a man. I have trained men with less experience, worse results only for them to move forward. If Diversity is important...prove it!

Does anyone have any metrics/ benchmarks they could share on diversity hires? We're putting goals together for 2023 and our senior leadership wants 30% of all candidates interviewed and hired to be gender or ethnic diverse.

Hi everyone! I’m pivoting from working in politics in search of a role in DEI. I have 1.5 YOE managing multiple campaigns and a BA in Global Studies & MA in Ethnology. I have experience working in and with non-profits and a passion for people and culture. I’d love to connect to hear about your journeys & advice for an early career transition!

How do you deal with your “mentor” being threatened by your performance and gatekeeping information from you? Then turning around and giving you shit for not knowing things… but they don’t tell you anything and there is no way for you to know. My learning and development is being hindered and I’ve felt this for a long time, but coworker just confirmed this is the case. Now that I know I’m not “crazy” for thinking this, how should I approach this?

Definitely took the wrong job. I was offered a seriously competitive salary and great benefits to work at a well funded startup, which is great! Turns out the salary and benefits were meant as lowkey bribes to insure I worked at the company without actually doing any work. Every single suggestion I've made has been shut down and I've been ghosted for several meetings with the CEO. What should I do? Just leave?

I'm dealing with some toxic masculinity at work from someone that works on my team. Does anyone have advice on constructive ways to address this type of behavior?

Working on introducing ERGs at a company- how did your company decide the first ERGs to start with? How did they communicate the start of ERGs and roll out the structure?

Working at a company and they can’t seem to hold on to their female, black and people of color employees. I blinked and 3 of the people who were in my onboarding class were either fired or they left. For context I’ve been in company less than a year and there are people who have been in the company 25yrs. I’m thinking of cutting loose before it gets to my turn.