I just joined the government a few months ago and I feel socially isolated. I’m the only non white guy for the most part. I attended a meeting where I was completely ignored and no one wanted to sit next to me. Not to mention i’m in my 20’s and the next closest in age is 45. Should I just leave?

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This must be really location dependent. I just joined last month and that has not been my experience. I’m sorry you’re dealing with that.

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Really depends on your management, location and also department. Management needs to help you to transition into your role. Office culture might influence how people socialize as well, based on color of the badge. Good luck and give it some time. Do you have an office mentor?

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