I really ruined things with the most beautiful girl that’s ever liked me before. I still very much like her but she doesn’t anymore. She said I was asking too much of her during the talking stage (after 1 month, I wanted to talk to her more besides only our weekends - she never texted/called).
Do I try again and give her more space or do I move on? I think she might open up more but just takes time which I didn’t give her

Any recos on great childcare in New York (ideally west village / Chelsea / Greenwich / soho)?

We recently sleep trained our 7 month son. He went from waking up multiple times during night and taking only 30 minute naps 3 times during day (most cases nursed to sleep or rocked to sleep or took a drive) to sleeping 12 hours at night without interruption and two 2 hour naps and one 45 minutes nap during day. We both love that he is getting enough sleep and well rested on one hand. On the other hand, we are now wondering if he is sleeping way too much.. contd…

Debating when to have the first baby… would you say having a baby is totally worth it ? Worth all the struggles and sacrifices? Or should I wait an extra year just to save more money and enjoy life now without the extra sacrifices… (female 27 & want to have 2 kids)

Have a buddy from college who has a firm in Europe. He wants to expand is looking for someone to run it together. Wife is begging for me to do, but I'd feel pretty uneasy up.

How have you dealt with anti-vaxxer friends? I have one and I’m not mad or angry at them. I’m just disappointed that I’ve associated myself with someone like them. 😔

How do you deal with parental guilt when you have to miss things? When my child was a baby it wasn't as big of a deal as long as I was around for the big stuff and was pulling my weight parent wise. Now that they're 4+ everything is big stuff, and every time I can't be there it really affects them. I know being successful in my career will set them up for the future, but it feels like I'm letting them down right now.

Our 5 month old started daycare about 5 weeks ago. We’ve already had to keep her home for 2.5 of those 5 weeks due to catching various illnesses (croup, rsv, brinchiolitis, etc). Both my wife and I have been sick most of that time as well (gotten it from the baby). Wife is thinking we get a full time nanny for the next 4 months to help the baby build antibodies. Cost aside, is this feasible / worthwhile to go thru the effort / finding the right fit, only for 4 months?

I think I might get a divorce

Man seeing all the divorcees at my firm... does anyone else feel like divorce laws should be revamped?

Opinions on career clerkships? Especially with a two year old and wanting another child eventually.

Been having trouble moving on since girlfriend ended relationship 3 weeks ago after 2+ years of dating. Before ending it she came over 3 weeks prior to basically give me a chance to work things out and we had a good discussion but then I went back into our routine and didn’t really fight for it or have serious follow up convos that we needed. Now I just have so many regrets that I let her go. I know we still love each other and left on “good” terms but can’t forgive myself for my lack of action.

Just found out that my favorite aunt, who claimed I was her “favorite” niece, chose to leave all her valuables to her other two nieces who never visited or called her once in the last ten years. My aunt passed away suffering from cancer last year and didn’t have her own kids. I was there by her side throughout her battle. I still wish I had done more, made her life easier. I probably sound petty, but a part of me is forcing me to re-evaluate every interaction I ever had with her.

I can't imagine being a single parent working in public accounting. Props to anyone who is.

IBD came to states at 8. My cousins back home are getting arrange married. My parents are starting to pressure me and pity me. But I have no interest in following a "timeline" and am pretty ambivalent when it comes to kids. I already have a SO and do not see a reason to tie the knot just because other people my age are. Anyone else getting pressured and its getting annoying?

Approaching 30 now and living with roommates in NYC, but considering moving to my own place. Has anyone found that living with roommates is better than living alone? Conventional wisdom says no.

I’m a pretty outgoing person and i like to have people around. I also like my roommates cause we chill. So I’m really scared of moving in alone and being lonely. Increase in rent will be marginal and totally affordable.

Welcome to the Single (Never Married) Teachers bowl. I'm sure the struggle is real out here and sometimes it's good just to have someone who's in a similar situation to talk to about our experiences.

Have you walked away from somebody you loved? And why?

Brought my gf sushi take out to her house when she got off of work. She didn't like the meal I got her and started to eat the roll i got for myself. She noticed I wasn't eating so I told her I ate before rather than tell her she was actually eating my dinner. She's now mad at me that I "lied" even though I did it so she wouldn't be embarrassed. Who's in the wrong

Is getting back together with an ex always a bad idea?

Don’t do it. It’s not worth it.

How much is entry level/new grad SWE comp at Lyft or Uber?

Hi,

Out of Cognizant, Empower, Conduent, EPAM, ATOS. Which company is better to join?


YOE: 6.5

Is there another consulting bowl? Can some one link it to me?

Anybody have discount codes for Herman Miller? My back is dying and really would love to get an Aeron but saw they increased the price form 1.1k in 2021 to 1.8k in 2022…

Anyone at Salesforce know how to lookup the level-grade of a specific person from the org chart?

Hey how is appraisals in altimetrik ??

First year (ug level hire) and got email from apple recruiter. Would love to exit to FAANG but not sure I'm ready to leave BCG in my first year but maybe after 2-4. What is best practice?

Just internally transferred from PCS to FS tax team as a senior. What can I do to catch up all the technical skills and stay on top of everything?

Our firm is hiring for ITS director, ITS manager and ITS senior. If any one is interested happy to connect you with the recruiting team.

When presented with designed screens for an app and asked to review it and finalise it, how long will it take you to pick up the trail and come back to the client with feedback? Say around 10 screens.

Did anyone from INFOSYS after accepting got their CTC revised by showing them a higher offer? Infosys

Uh, Discover? ... “Hello”?

I have a consulting/PE interview on Friday, please recommend consulting books or sites to read. Need to speak consulting language

Does 401k count as savings?

Friends I received offer with joining date did not take it due to family emergency then this pandemic came now no joining date for me. How are you guys doing are you getting new people onboard?

Slowly coming to the realization that I’ll be single forever for personal reasons - 40 M no kids. Trying to figure out how to take care of myself in my 60s-90s and what to do now to be as self sufficient as possible. Any advice would be welcomed.

Accepted an offer for 150k with another b4 (currently at D) with 4 YOE. I should be happy and jumping with this number but being an 1st gen immigrant, this number is too unreal/scary to me. Growing up I watched my parents struggle working multiple jobs from sunrise to midnight just to make minimum wage for us to have a good life but now it feels weird to be making this much? It feels like a party I shouldn’t be in, but here I am.

My sister thinks that me being miffed about a guy not finding time to text back within 24 hours is abrasive and demanding.

She’s a people pleaser and different personality, but dang I’m not asking for much.

I work in industry and was notified that my employer is laying off people in 3 months. In order to get my bonus I have to stay until then. Do I wait 1-2 months before I start applying to other jobs or start now?

What’s the required PwC car insurance coverage? Do we really need it if we are not driving for work purposes? and only for commuting?

Do men actually like feisty women? Or do you like a more submissive woman? Curious

I have a new direct report who’s at producer level and needs a lot of hand holding. I’ve been her manager for 6 months and she has yet to do anything without me telling her. Like at the start of a project she doesn’t immediately meet w creatives, work on costs/budget etc. She’s self described as ‘shy’ but doesn’t take initiative. She needs help responding to emails. I’m just not sure she has IT. Suggestions on how to support her but also help her grow welcome!

What do you think about Retention Bonuses? Is it a good or a bad thing? Love to hear your thoughts on this.

Been seeing this guy for 1 year now. I just became an American citizen so have been getting more into politics. I lean left but the guy I’m seeing leans more conservative. He treats me so well and we get along great. Yes we disagree about topics but have respectful conversations and have both become more open minded. He doesn’t think it’s an issue. I feel like the media and the judgement of dating someone on the right is getting to me & making me have negative sabotaging thoughts. Any advice?

I’m not American but I’ve been living in the US for 9 years and I still get extremely nervous when I have to lead calls. Sometimes my words get mixed and makes me so frustrated. Just got off a call and I think I did horrible 😔

Chris Stapleton might be a cool guy. Maybe he has some good music. But every time I hear him sing “drive on” during a Ram commercial I want to punch him in the face. Ram has overplayed that one.

How many hours do you actually work on an average day?

You lookin’ for me? Man, come find me.

And I’m not gon’ snatch your chain. I’m gon’ take it off politely.

So when I go back to sell it, it’s not damaged. Not even slightly🥱

Going to make the most of my Christmas quarantine by swiping through every living man between the ages of 24-34 on hinge

This is gonna sound super bigheaded & egotistical but I promise it’s coming from a humble place

I’m what you could call an over achiever. Damn near straight A’s all my life without really trying. Graduated school straight to a six figure job, wrapping up my masters, and I’m in real estate & stocks. I work out often, so I’m fit, and I’m considered a “chad” I guess you could say

I get a lot of praise for these things and sometimes I just don’t know what to say. I say thank you of course (cont)

I hate when people use the phrase “I would die for (xyz)” when xyz is something no one would actually die for - like a random cute dog on the internet or whatever. I mean, would you really die for that? It’s cute and all, but, no, I would not die for it.

I tried to break up with my SO and instead they talked their way out of it for an hour and we're now on a "break" that involves the same amount of contact as before so not really sure what i accomplished

Any fun awards I can use as inspiration for an “office superlative” kind of ceremony?

I want to buy a large TV for Cyber Monday but have always been lower income. I would feel bad having family over with an expensive TV. I don't really need it. Our house is still very much low budget. I haven't made any real upgrades since getting a new job.

Is this a weird rationalization or logical? I am kind of torn so I considered just using that money for a vacation and maybe buying a TV next year... though I'll likely do this again at that time.