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I’m in an upcoming wedding and just found out the bride and groom aren’t vaccinated nor do they plan to. Do I pull out of the wedding?

Most of the invitees won’t be either I’m guessing and masks are optional. I’m vaccinated and in the bridal party but I’m really nervous with the Delta variant. I want to be supportive but she hid this from everyone until now.

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Personally I am a bride with a wedding this weekend (we postponed the big event and did a minimony last year). Me and the groom as well as the wedding party and 90% of our guest list are vaccinated (a few are not even old enough to get the vaccine). We are offering individually wrapped black disposable masks for our guest but not requiring them. We are giving out individual hand sanitizers to everyone and implementing a wristband system (red is stay 6 feet away and wave, yellow is elbow bumps, green is hugs are fine). We know it wont be perfect but we want everyone to feel as comfortable as possible.

Have you thought about wearing a clear mask so the pictures look a little better or a lace/patterned masks that matches your outfit? David's bridal or etsy have options. It's not throwing a hissy fit to let her know that you would love to be there and be a part of it but you only feel safe for yourself and others you interact with if you wear a mask.

I would be shocked if she would not understand especially given the pandemic. Personally, if she won't allow that, then I would probably not go.

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Congrats and hope the wedding went well! Hope nobody got sick….

1.) What do you mean hiding? I’m wondering if she just didn’t think it was something that would be an issue so she didn’t share? I encounter you (and legit everyone) to assume a little more positive intent.
If that is the case it’s your personal decision - are you going to let fear continually control your decisions and miss out on life events? Bc the reality is, the world is moving on until the next time the government decides to shut us down so might as well enjoy it while you can
2.) In the kindest way. This isn’t about you- or what anyone on this thread, including me, thinks. It’s about the happy couple celebrating their union the way they want. If you think you will in anyway detract from that, you should respectfully remove yourself. Think about what matters most to you- is it this friendship? Is it your principals? Choose and take action accordingly, but don’t ruin this poor girls day bc you think she had some malicious intent to trick you into going. Don’t forget - there is still freedom in health. Help it stay that way.

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Sure she will bow out of the wedding gracefully: I’m so sorry but you know, Covid, I’m sure you understand and want us all to be safe. Enjoy your day! Guessing the bride will not take it well but that just affirms the decision.

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Additional context: they prayed on it and God said they’d be fine. Along with their whole family. I’m like 🤦🏼‍♀️. These people are the reason Covid is still a mess.

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If they quarantine before the wedding, everyone should be fine.

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Just went to a wedding where the best man wasn’t vaxed and there was a sizeable
Outbreak of both vaxed and other unvaxed people, including the flower girl. Now
Multiple people are very sick, including a child. Personally, I’d pull out to send a message.

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D5 - anaphylactic reactions are normal in vaccines which is why they ask us to wait 15-30 min to address that if it happens. Probability is 1 in 1/2 million.

Love the comments to end friendship based on the vaccination status.

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Lol the vaccine doesnt stop the spread of covid, and these people want to target them for bad values. Lololololol. I would be happy to end my relationship with anyone forcing a vaccine- your IQ levels would be too low for me.

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That’s tough. You will be fine but she’s holding a super spreader event intentionally. I wouldn’t go.

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Love how EY2 and EY4 both flip this on it’s head making the OP the bad person and not being a true friend. That is right out of the playbook for one side of this argument.

It is sad that there are so many people out there who think like this.

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I’d pull out and rethink the friendship

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Same

Yeah I guess I just struggle because she didn’t tell us and shared drinks with everyone and then it came out she wasn’t vaccinated. It’s just extremely selfish if you ask me.

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Why is sharing drinks still a thing? I haven't done that since I played little league.

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99% survival rate

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Lol no one likes to admit that the survival rate is so high. It’s hilarious

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God, that’s so selfish of them.

Pull out. Not everyone can get vaccinated (kids) and helping the spread puts them at risk. Be a good citizen and don’t go.

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Pfizer withheld the vaccine data until a few days after the election. They had the data prior to the election, and chose not to release. It’s all crooked — all parties and all corporations.

For everyone who is saying end the friendship, people have their reasons for being unvaccinated. I had an ectopic pregnancy this past year and had to be rushed into emergency surgery. On the advice of my doctors I am not getting the vaccine while we try to conceive. My story is not unique and if I had family and friends as unsupportive as some of you I’d rethink my friendship with some of you. While you may not agree with people remaining unvaccinated , sometimes people have reasons they don’t want or need to disclose to you. It is a personal choice and a very difficult choice for those of us who want to get it but can’t based on doctors advice.

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Israel just approved a third vaccine shot to people over 60. Clearly the Israel heath ministry views the vaccine as safe. Just like the health authority of every major developed country.

We have had over 1 billion vaccinated globally with extremely low side effects. I can't think of a time we have had so much data points to show efficacy.

We need to shut down all these crazy conspiracy theories and educate folks that the vaccines are safe. Please if you can, get vaccinated. There are reasonable reasons for some not to get vaccinated but they need broader society to get vaccinated to foster herd immunity so that life can return to more normalcy.

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I wouldn’t go. Seems like they don’t care for other people’s comfort, so you shouldn’t care if you want to pull out.

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Well if OP is vaccinated, then he shouldn’t have anything to worry about right? As long as the vaccines work that is

I wouldn’t go. They’re going out of their way to host a super spreader event and people may die as a consequence.

I’d bail and find new friends.

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For what, D10? Not wanting to be complicit in the death of others?

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Not only should you *pull out*, they should, too.




There’s no need for procreating more stupid people on earth.

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KPMG, this is why we’re better. We have fun w life, don’t be so sensitive, hold the L

You need to grow up… I can’t believe this is the type of crap that people are posting in an app designed to connect with people in your industry regarding YOUR JOB. If you’re vaccinated and you believe in it, you have nothing to worry about because even if you got COVID, your symptoms will be minimal with no risk of hospitalization. They didn’t hide anything from you btw, they don’t have to discuss their personal health choices with you or anyone quite frankly. If you’re still worried, then pull out of your friends wedding and ultimately lose a friend but make sure to send them a card with cash in it!

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Hello, KPMG5, you’re posting in the corona bowl, what did you expect people to be discussing?

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You are vaccinated. You are fine. It is their risk.

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Just a reminder that you can still be vaccinated and test positive for covid, I know a lot of people who have including myself. It’s really unfortunate more people aren’t getting vaccinated to prevent this

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So you’re saying that the vaccinated are getting infected..?!? Interesting to see that the vaccine isn’t working

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I literally can't believe people are still asking this question. Your body, your choice. Their body, their choice. Do what makes you comfortable.

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Altran 1 - when employers and the government are beginning to mandate it starts to feel forced. I don’t think I agree with your point about distorting reality? It’s contradicting to tell some people what you do with your body is your choice but then demonize them when they are making the choice to wait and learn more about something that will in fact go into their body.

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Pull out. Even if you've gotten vaccinated. They are being selfish and putting others at risk.

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You should call Fauci and tell CNN. This is an outrage!

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If only you were as funny as you think you are, PwC2. What a wonderful world it would be.

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Don’t go if you’re going to worry about it or be grumpy about it. No one wants a negative attitude at their wedding.

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