I’m reading a book called “The Sugar Jar” by Yasmine Cheyenne because I needed help with understanding and setting boundaries. Have you ever had to set a boundary at work? If so, was it communicated or did you just move differently? Was it beneficial?

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I set a boundary around talking about my personal life. It was really awkward at first but I tried to remember boundaries are to protect me not to enforce on someone else. If I keep my side of the street clean, eventually the rest will be figured out.

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Yes, in several instances. It's not easy at first, but once you get used to it, it's a game changer. I'm glad you're reading that book. You'll have so much more peace.

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I need to read this book because I am not going to lie....I am HORRIBLE at setting boundaries.

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Me too!

I am also bad at setting boundaries so will def give this book a try! Do you all feel that potentially having a toxic work environment could be related to being bad at setting boundaries or do you any of you feel it comes from within?

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An Obliger is someone who depends on external accountability essentially most people pleasers who have a fear of letting people down. Obligers thrive when others rely on them but struggle to do things that make themselves happy. Obligers Rebellion is when an Obliger gets tired of the constant need to meet others expectations and abruptly stop whether it be as simple as coming to work late or quitting a job, a friendship, etc.
I think a lot of us who have issues setting boundaries are probably Obligers.

I am horrendous at setting boundaries. It doen't come easy to me due to my family background and it's made my life pretty difficult at work. I am trying to be mire assertive and not be such a doormat, but it's definitely a work in progress!

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