In a relationship for a 1.5 and my bf and i are from different countries, having the same ethnicity but different cultural background as he is born and brought up here. I have a close friend who is born here too and they have similar interests and culture. We met twice and the first time he met, he was curious around what she was texting me and the second time, he saw her notification in my wallpaper and clicked on it to reveal the message. Upon confrontation, he said he was curious since we..

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I would bring this up with him. Not that he would ever admit it even if it was true, but it’s important to share how you feel and in some cases also show you’re not stupid and notice things. Worst case she tells you you’re being paranoid but given it’s still a (sort of) fresh relationship it might even be cute.

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Thanks! I did confront him and he said the usual of nothing going on and that him being nosy. He wanted to see who/what the text was about and the fact that “i know him” but still. Im gonna find way to make them meet again and keep an eye on their behavior

Well you know what they say, three‘s a crowd…. Good luck with that.

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I actually didnt know thats what they say 😂

When the cultural differences are significant it's going to be hard to make it work unless you have some big shared values like religion and how you want to raise kids and where you would like to raise them. It may be easier to part ways now before things get messy. He behavior could have nothing to do with that also.. it could simply be that he feels like he hasn't experienced much and is still looking for opportunities to enjoy himself. Either way, it's not something you would want given that you seem like you want a serious and committed relationship.

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Hmm thats true. Im his first ever real relationship and the fact that he doesnt have any friends, let alone female friends makes me be more paranoid since i havent seen him around how he is with other females from similar bgs

If it were me, I would ignore it unless it happens again and becomes a pattern.

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… we dropped her off to a station so wanted to know. I also noticed that he noticed her favourite food and what she didnt like because she very strongly expressed it when we had a conversation about food. I have past experience of an ex being borderline unfaithful and he had different cultural background as well. I am not sure if im reading too much into it for my insecurity or there is actually something thats going on. Despite this, he is a oretty good and caring bf and this is the first time im feeling weird about a situation. I dont know how to go about it

Thanks! I did confront him and he said the usual of nothing going on and that him being nosy. He wanted to see who/what the text was about and the fact that “i know him” but still. Im gonna find way to make them meet again and keep an eye on their behavior

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