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I don't know you but try to motivate yourself. Holidays is almost here then you can relax reset and fire up the engine again.
The market right now is tough, so please keep the hard work 💪🏿
It's indescribably tough, but hybrid jobs are demanding a LOT for companies who pay no airfare or relocation. In the 1980s, companies trained people they hired, and if you needed to move they paid for it. That being said, relocation expenses were tax deductible until Paul Ryan managed to pass the Tax and Jobs Act, which says military active duty relocations are deductible. However, if you are active duty, you don't pay a dime. They take care of your every need, maybe not on salary but they know how to move people for sure.
Burn out can be psychologically and physically draining.
Based om what you shared it appears that you are in a high-pressure and potentially toxic work environment due to lack of leadership support/empathy?
Do you have options to take time off work, like vacation/medical leave?
Are you working with a therapist/counsellor to mange your stress, build wellness habits into your professional & personal life?
In this economy I would never recommend quitting, but I do recommend priotizing self care via:
- Medical/Personal support
- Investigating and implementing all legal boundaries to protect against harassment, overwork, and overall employer abuse
- Looking into professional coaching that will help you with tools, training, and resources to make your current role easier to manage, as well as move you into a higher paying role that creates more personal freedom and professional joy.
As someone who has dealt with 2 breakdowns due to burnout and now struggling to land a new role after being laid off, I speak from experience when I say TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST, PLEASE!!!
Exactly. My last company burned out two people. One was a lawyer and married to a doctor. He took two weeks off, went to France with his wife and kids, and his boss agreed to remove him from the project. Our esteemed client was in the habit of torturing him with random emails at night, interrupting him. All she had to do was figure out what schedule send is.
Our next victim was a small business owner who is very sweet, and had the misfortune of being with my firm which is a subcontractor rather than the prime. She quit after our client pissed her off. (And, two weeks off overseas.) Landed at another federal client, got bored and is now working someplace else.
I was first to get laid off due to emailing my daily summary as instructed, rather than putting it in Excel as desired within my client's imagination. My EOR isn't much of a GIS firm, thus I must sail the sea of job listings until homeless with my family blaming me for what I never chose.
Employers, be less picky. Accept 80% skills match and 110% effort. Nobody is born knowing how to make a map, except possibly my friend David as he started at age 5.
Thus my timesheet was apparently a lie, when really it was simply blank as all the data existed where my PM asked it to go. 90% of the time I was the first to send it on time.
You should go see a medical doctor as you may need to take a 12-week medical leave. If you have short or long term disability insurance, it may be worth it for your state of mind.
I wound up having the most severe breakdown which found myself committing myself to a facility and eventually parlayed itself into a 3 year step down and ultimately a dismantling of my department. Needing to do self care and use FMLA are REAL. DO NOT hesitate to take care of yourself before you implode. Laws exist for a reason and only a foolish company would push you around once you seek therapy, mental help and intervention. YES everyone is a little messed up while we walk the earth. NO not everyone finds themselves on tilt and entertaining their own demise or exhibiting self harm or worse as a way out. SEEK HELP 1st and question the outcome later...speaking from experience with the whole boat wife and kids...the marriage did suffer though the kids are better than ever..You will find your way to self help, self care and healing eventually. Life is toxic we need more tools for everyone. As I said to my therapist how can I take care of my family if I cant even take care of myself..the dilema is real...All the best..
Your first duty is to your self. If you have access to an EAP program, use it. Talking to someone will do you wonders (probably why you’re here now). A professional therapist can help you decide how much help you need.
Professionally, you need a productive conversation with your boss. Dictating your work to your boss is not going to go over well with anyone. In order to have a productive conversation, you need to discuss your barriers and what your boss can do to help you overcome your barriers. The answer may not be less work, it might be trading assignments. Explore the problem, don’t leap to solutions. Show that you’re trying.
If your boss can’t or won’t help you, then you’ve done everything in your power to improve your situation and can leave with a clear conscience. Your job may not be a good fit for you. Maybe a transfer internally could help. If your boss isn’t helping, you can try HR, but that’s a tricky one. HR’s duty is to the company first and not all HR reps are equal. I’ve met good ones and terrible ones. Good ones are looking for solutions that help you and the company.
I wish you the best and encourage you not to give up. Get help.
Try to take a step back and see if you can get yourself organized. Sometimes when I've got a lot of work if I break it into manageable pieces it makes it somewhat easier. At least I can tick off little milestones and know I'm making some progress. Just knowing you're getting things done will give you confidence, and then you'll develop a flywheel effect, the work will actually become easier once you get it in motion.
You know what's harder? Researching companies you want to work for, tailoring resumes, going through the interview process, spending time doing prep work, not getting paid all that time, and not getting the job.
Until the workload is reduced, skip the work that people don't see or won't cause issues for 1-2 months.
Don't double check deliverables from other team members, skip meetings, etc.
Status reports? Copy and paste with minor changes. If leads aren't giving you updates and you don't have time to chase, flag in the report as pending input.
Increase you savings in case of layoffs.
If you say no, you're headed to a pip. The only way to survive is to stack rank projects in terms of visibility and importance the the lower ones get neglected.
I’m not sure if you know this but not working hard and telling your boss to not assign work to you is a bad idea.
I agree, it’s better to miss due dates than turn down work.
there are a lot of good suggestions in this thread but i would have an honest, transparent, "productive" conversation with your boss about your current state. let them know that you are feeling you are at capacity and ask them if there is any relief in sight. you want them to feel you are a team player but they need to understand you are on a precipice. if they don't have relief by way of human support taking on workload, ask if there is a way to prioritize the backlog of work and work with them to set realistic expectations. also, ask them if there are options for flex/comp time for you working over and above. don't just shut down and sluff off because you are frustrated/pissed/etc - this will only bite you in the ass and follow you in your career. keep doing good work and hold yourself to high standards regardless as this is what carries you along your journey. best of luck to you!
Adding more perspective…I just got off a really huge client where I was required to be on call for a year. I answered calls between the hours of 9pm - 5am and then needed to be on a testing call which could last until 10am. I still had other meetings throughout the day like a typical 9-5. I specifically asked my manager for a break and less high touch projects to only be put on a huge AI project. Im really tired. I have been unemployed before so I know it’s tough , which is why Im trying to push through til the holidays. We work with well known clients who are very high touch.
I hope your being compensated fairly for this role
I feel you on that burnout part. But try to stick it out until you can find something else that make you more fulfilled. I had a very similar attitude last year with the company I worked with… well long story short, I got laid off one morning. And even though I have a long list of qualifications and projects, I’m going on a year without having found another position. The market SUCKS rn. Try to stick it out so you don’t end up in a position like me and thousands others out there. Your reward will come soon.
If customers are afraid to sign contracts, it's hard to hire new staff. Boss needs some chance of paying you.
Put yourself in a position where it doesn't matter if they fire you. If you have a 6 - 12 month emergency fund, they can fire you and you'll have that money to float on until you land another job. Or use that time to get a new certification.
It sounds like there may be problems that need to be addressed. If the problem isn’t you, then don’t act like it is to your manager. If your manager is the problem, talk to HR. There is a problem somewhere in your situation. Identify the problem and try to find ways to eliminate it. If you get fired because you present yourself as the problem, it’s going to be harder to find your next job. If the company is the problem and they aren’t willing to improve or change, that ship is going down and it sounds like the sooner you are able to jump ship the better off you’ll be. Contribute and make yourself better in the meantime until things change or you have a life raft to jump onto.
I've been here, and had to stay. I've been here and left too, but sometimes it's best not to move on emotion (market conditions, waiting to be vested in a match, location, etc.). Here is what I did to make it bearable:
-eliminate as many meetings as you can, that you control.
-if you can't eliminate meetings, reduce the audience and combine those audiences if you can
- use the space, created by reducing the meetings, to schedule time to do actual work
-identify any task that you do, just to be nice, that isn't your job and hand it off.
- Work during team meetings, if asked to contribute, ask for a repeat as you are multi-tasking
- take lunch everyday, no matter what
- maximize OT, if you have it.
- if OT is not an option, make sure you identify when you are over 45 and ask for comp time
- be brief in communications
- any additional work, no matter how small , reject and if you can't reject ask for a prioritization and delay anything that is deprioritized. ( make sure you communicate why it is being delayed/ what is prioritized over it)
Basically, set as many boundaries as you can and share the pain of being overworked.
What are you doing for yourself when you're not at work?
@OP your "me time" is as important as anything else. If you're not mentally sound nothing else will matter
You have done a lot! You deserve a break to restore at any standard.
Feeling really tired at work for that long isn't healthy. It affects your mental health and relationships and eventually your performance.
I've been there and it all go spiral down before you can realize.
Like someone had mentioned, it's your right to request medical leave/support if you are covered.
Check your HR/company policy. With medical leave, you don't need to disclose the details to your manager and you will still have income support if you are approved of STD/LTD. Good luck!
High touch as in not capable, or just frightened? Job security comes at a cost...
It means it requires constant hands on. Even constant and long after hours support. All while still having to attend his normal 9-5 work obligations.
Sometimes for your upper managers its not always about what YOU can get done then what it is to get "Multiple things done" trust me they know you cant do it all. So dont try and kill yourself doing it. Keep receipts of emails and conversations and if at all possible document your workload and the blockers that are keeping you from doing your full job.
just don't learn the lesson the way I did.
"If I just push through it and work harder, they'll see I need a break"
Ended up working 80 hour weeks, receiving an award for outstanding work, and laid off 3 weeks later.
Your well being is not worth their success. They are not loyal to you, You are only a means to make money for them. So, prioritize you above all things... and if you get another opportunity that trerats/suits you better, take it.
I was in this very same situation after switching depts last year.