Just venting here, hoping for you all’s opinions. I’ve recently had the same type of men approach me. Men who show an extreme interest but it’s clear that they want me to make the move. Someone recently asked me why I hadn’t asked for his number, even though he approached me. Or men who try to fit how much money they make into the first 5 minutes of the conversation. Are other women here having this experience too? Or do you think it’s something I might be giving off to attract this?

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I feel the same being on hinge. Men will match with me but not initiate conversation. And when I do start a chat they take forever to respond. Like why match with someone if you’re not even gonna put effort into the initial conversation? All this to say I don’t think it’s you. It’s slim pickings in these streets 🤦🏽‍♀️

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Girl!!! It’s such slim pickings, the last couple months I’ve had way more men initiate conversation in real life that I’m used to, but they always are too shy to be assertive, or they try to overcompensate with the fact that they have money. I’m just so over it, I hate the apps, but it feels like the only way to meet people without their walls up.

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Strange never experienced men waiting for me to ask for their numbers. I mean, what would happen next? I would then call them? No please
With apps, I had a standard msg that I copied paste to every single guy. It took away the emotion, but it was fun and complimentary, but I'm not able to carry the convo, so don't eat too much into starting a convo.
Ask your guy friend what they think you give off in sure it's beautiful baddie. What city are you in

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I am in Chicago girl! I once had a male acquaintance tell me that I look “unobtainable”. He said because I travel a lot and have luxury things, most men will think that they can’t take care of me. I disregarded it, because I felt like only insecure men would feel that way. Plus in the environment that I’ve been meeting guys, they can’t see those things. So I’m not sure how it correlates. These things never happened to me on the app, so maybe it is insecurity, because men have more courage online? I’d just really rather meet people organically, but it’s been so frustrating!!

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Listen! That's a mess. The right man would see your luxury and know it matches his. Got to Texas haha they are living big down there and used to luxury.

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Sometimes I feel like as a black woman, when we are well put together and appear to know our worth, men in this city feel the need to overcompensate and they’re always looking for extra validation. I’m sooooooooo over it. If I ever moved, it would definitely be to Texas. lol

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It seems to me more and more that men have become the new women 😅

This is sadly very relatable in the dating pool with the new modern men era and red pill community. It's like some men want to be courted and chased by women... but in the same breath desire to be deemed as masculine leaders. Girl, it's so weird lol.

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I literally couldn’t have said it better. A lot of them want to be crowned the leader, but require women do all of the leading in the background. And then they’ll turn around and call us too masculine, but won’t allow us to thrive in our feminine energy. At this point, I can’t keep up with the these modern ideas that they have. It’s exhausting.

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